Finding what lesbian sex positions work for you and your girlfriend is tricky. Women are more complicated than men when it comes to receiving pleasure from sex. We need to learn what works best for our bodies to achieve orgasm. Even as a woman who likes other women, you may be curious about the best way to make your girlfriend climax. After all, every woman is different. What works for you won’t necessarily work for her, and vice versa.
Though, as women, we all know where to find the clitoris (hopefully), there’s much more to sex than simply “rubbing the nub.” Experimenting with different lesbian sex positions gives you and your partner a chance to explore your bodies. You’ll find all the best ways to make your partner reach climax by learning new pleasure techniques. Read on to learn more about the top lesbian sex positions and how to do them.
Top Lesbian Sex Positions Explained
Face Sitting
Facesitting is one of the favorite lesbian sex positions among ladies who love getting or giving oral. Start with having your partner lie on her back with a pillow placed comfortably beneath her neck. Then, carefully straddle your partner’s head by placing one knee on either side of her face. Your vagina should be just above her mouth, giving her full access to your lady bits. Slowly lower down onto your partner’s face until she can orally pleasure you.
Facesitting is one of the lesbian sex positions that allows your partner to satisfy you orally, while you control the movement. When you’re facesitting, you can move up, down, forward, backward, or sideways. Being in control of the oral sex on you allows you to find what position is most pleasurable. Meanwhile, your partner gets to rest their neck on a comfy pillow.
Need more support while facesitting? Try using a queening stool. Queening stools are small, usually wooden, or plastic stools with a circular hole in the middle. There’s enough room underneath the stool for your partner to put their head under while you sit on top. Through the hole in the stool, they have access to your vagina to perform oral sex. Meanwhile, you can relax and enjoy while having the stool support your weight.
Spooning
Intimate lesbian sex positions, like spooning, are perfect for date night with your partner. Lesbian sex positions that allow you to be as close to your partner as possible are great for building a stronger connection. You’ll even increase your oxytocin production with more skin on skin contact. Which is a hormone that encourages bonding with your partner. Start by lying on the bed next to your partner to do the spooning position You should each be lying on your side as close to one another. The “little spoon” will be the partner pressed against the other partner’s front body. You will both try to align your hips so that your pelvises are stacked one in front of the other.
The “big spoon” or partner facing their partner’s backside, will gently reach one hand around to their partner’s vagina. They can comfortably stimulate their partner’s clitoris or finger them. They can use their other hand to massage their partner’s back or reach their arm under and around their partner to play with their breasts. Spooning is one of the most intimate lesbian sex positions because you are close and personal with your partner. You’re able to whisper sweet nothings into each other’s ears or enjoy embracing and being embraced by your partner. There’s a time and place for crazy, raunchy lesbian sex positions, but spooning allows you to be romantic.
Kneeling Oral
Oral lesbian sex positions are popular, probably because most women find oral sex extremely pleasurable. The sensation of your partner’s warm, wet tongue stimulating your clitoris and labia is, well, orgasmic. There’s no other way you need to describe it. The kneeling oral is oral sex with a twist. To do it, have your partner sit in a chair with her legs spread wide. Kneel on your knees in front of her and gently spread her legs apart farther as you begin to pleasure her orally.
Kneeling oral is a sexy twist from standard oral sex. Your partner will love watching you go down on her from her position in the chair. It will give her a different vantage point. If you want to make this move kinkier, incorporate some BDSM. Try tying her hands and legs to the chair to make her feel more vulnerable. If you prefer to be the submissive partner, have her tie your wrists together while she holds your head in between her legs.
Oral lesbian sex positions are always hot, but make it hotter by stimulating the nerves in her inner thighs. The nerve endings in women’s inner thighs are extremely sensitive. Massage, nibble, or use your tongue to trace the outline of her inner thigh to drive her wild. The stimulation on her thighs and clitoral stimulation will have her orgasming in record time. If not, try inserting your fingers into her vagina to find her G-spot. By moving your fingers upward in a “come hither” motion, you may be able to stimulate her special spot and induce an earth-shattering orgasm the neighbors will surely hear (Good! Let them hear it!).
The Reach Around
The reach around is one of the sexier lesbian sex positions for women who like to be dominated. If you are the dominant partner, press your partner up against the wall and press your body close against hers. Have her spread her legs and reach one of your hands around to forcefully (but gently) begin stimulating her clitoris. Use your other hand to grab her breasts or pull her waist closer to you. Lesbian sex positions like the reach around give partners a chance to experiment with dominant vs. submissive roles.
Pressing your partner up against a wall while you pleasure her is a dominant move that gives you a sense of control. Put a blindfold on your partner for more kink while you’re pleasuring her. You can use the opportunity to whisper dirty things while she’s writhing in pleasure. You can perform the reach around in a kneeling position on the bed if you prefer. Instead of standing behind your partner, have her kneel in front of you. You’ll be on your knees behind her with one hand stimulating her clitoris while your other arm wraps around her waist. In this position, she’ll be able to reach up and wrap her arms around your neck if she wants. Doing so will create the perfect opportunity to lean down and plant kisses or gentle love bites along her neck.
Doggy Style
Doggy style isn’t just for people who have penises. Doggy style can be a lesbian sex positions with a few small tweaks. You and your partner will be on your hands and knees on the bed. If you are the giving partner, you will be behind your partner facing her bum. Have her spread her legs apart just slightly to access her genitals. You can either stay on your hands and knees or come to a kneeling position behind her. Then, use one or both of your hands to stimulate her clitoris, and labia, or insert your fingers into her vagina.
Lesbian sex positions like doggy style give you access to both her vagina and anus simultaneously. If she’s into anal play, you can use this opportunity to engage in double penetration. Do this by using both hands to penetrate both her anus and vagina or using a dildo. Other anal play ideas include anal beads and butt plugs. If your partner prefers oral over penetration, you can use the doggy-style sex position to go down on her from behind. She’ll enjoy the stimulation while you enjoy the awesome view of her supple, spankable booty.
Scissoring
Scissoring is one of the more classic lesbian sex positions, and for a good reason (thank you, The L Word). Scissoring allows both partners to be stimulated simultaneously which is always a bonus. To do it, lie on your sides with your pelvises facing one another. Entangle yourselves together so that your vaginas are touching one another’s. Finding a comfortable position for both of you where this is possible might take some time. Once you’re comfortable you can begin grinding your vaginas together to create mutual clitoral stimulation.
If this is uncomfortable, try using lube. Lube will make gliding and grinding on your partner’s vagina easier. It will also decrease the risk of chafing, which could occur if both you and your partner shave “down there”.” You and your partner can take turns grinding on one another or go at it simultaneously However you choose to do it, both of you will be getting clitoral stimulation at the same time.
Best Lesbian Sex Positions With a Strap-On
A strap-on is a sex toy designed for lesbian couples who want to experience penetrative sex. You could use a dildo or vibrator for penetration in lesbian sex positions. However, a strap-on allows the giving partner to feel more active in the pleasure-giving. Not all women like using strap-ons, which is fine. You should never feel pressured to do a sexual act you don’t feel comfortable doing. But for ladies who do enjoy strap-ons or are curious about lesbian sex positions with strap-ons, we’ve got a few for you to try.
Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)
Couples who like having sex with strap-ons will love the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) for being able to produce mutual orgasms. Wear your favorite strap-on and have your partner lie on her back on the bed. Do the CAT Climb on top of her in a missionary position with your arms on either side of your partner and your legs in between hers. Insert the strap-on into her vagina. Then, lean forward and over onto one side of her shoulder. Have her lift one of her legs at a 45-degree angle so that the base of the strap-on will come into direct contact with her clitoris. Thrust up and down instead of in and out as you usually would while wearing a strap-on.
Humping your partner creates more friction against her vulva and stimulates her clitoris better, which means that she’ll be more likely to orgasm. You will also experience vaginal and clitoral stimulation from the friction against the base of the strap-on while you wear it. The CAT is one of the best lesbian sex positions with a strap-on that brings both partners to orgasm. One study found that the CAT was successful in helping 56 percent of women achieve orgasm.
Cowgirl
If you love lesbian sex positions where you get to be on top, then try the cowgirl with a strap-on. Have your partner don the strap-on and lie on her back on the bed. Climb on top and straddle her waist. Slowly lower yourself onto the strap-on and begin to bounce, grind, or gyrate along the shaft of the strap-on. You are on top, so you control how fast and how deep you want the penetration to feel. Many women prefer lesbian sex positions with strap-ons where they get to control the penetration.
Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. Clitoral stimulation is necessary to reach climax for most of these women. The cowgirl sex position puts you in a better position for clitoral stimulation because you can grind your clitoris against the base of the strap-on. Try grinding on your partner’s strap-on instead of bouncing or gliding up and down for best results. Grinding in a circular motion will give you a better chance at clitoral stimulation and, in turn, orgasm.
Missionary
Missionary may be one of the more vanilla lesbian sex positions with a strap-on. But honestly, who doesn’t like vanilla now and then? If you and your partner enjoy using strap-ons during sex, the missionary sex position is a must-try. Start by having the receiving partner lying on her back on the bed. The partner with the strap-on will climb on top and insert the strap-on into her partner’s vagina (or ass). She can begin to thrust in and out at a pace comfortable for her partner.
Missionary positions are great lesbian sex positions for couples who like intimate lovemaking. You’ll be face to face with your partner giving you excellent eye contact and skin-to-skin contact. It’s also one of the more accessible lesbian sex positions to perform with a strap-on. Couples with mobility or flexibility issues will find the missionary position less difficult than other physically demanding lesbian sex positions.
The downside to missionary with a strap-on is that only one partner can be sexually stimulated. However, you can take turns wearing the strap-on or switch to other lesbian sex positions right after. Or, if you look for the right one, some strap-ons have a portion that inserts into the giving partner’s vagina, stimulating her G-spot, or others have textured pads that make contact with the giving partner’s clit. Both girls get to get off. Win-Win!
Best Tips for Lesbian Sex Positions
Use Toys
Sex toys can add fun and pleasure to most lesbian sex positions. Vibrators, dildos, nipple clamps, and anal beads are fun ways to experiment with sexual satisfaction. They can also provide a more mutually pleasurable experience for both partners. For example, while you’re going down on your girlfriend and giving her the orgasm of her life, you can use a vibrator on yourself. In this way, you’ll both be able to experience pleasure simultaneously instead of taking turns.
Stick With One Position
While there are many lesbian sex positions to choose from, orgasm is more likely to happen by remaining in one effective position. You may first need to switch up lesbian sex positions during your experimental phase. But once you find something that works for you, keep at it—switching lesbian sex positions to keep things exciting may be counterproductive to achieving orgasm and sexual satisfaction.
Don’t Forget the Lube!
Whether you’re using fingers, toys, strap-ons, or scissoring, having enough lubrication in your lady parts is essential for comfortable sex. Be sure to have enough lube handy when you and your partner are experiencing different lesbian sex positions. Lubrication will make penetration or clitoral stimulation easier and more satisfying for the receiving partner.
Go Get Em’, Girl!
Now that you’re versed in some of the top lesbian sex positions, you’re ready to rock your girlfriend’s world. Show her what you’ve learned by incorporating some of these lesbian sex positions into the bedroom. We bet you’ll have her legs shaking and begging you for more. You go get em’, girl!
