Key Points
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Being geographically separated from your partner makes it difficult to stay connected to one another.
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Staying in regular contact and getting creative with your communication is key to staying fulfilled.
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Physical intimacy is impossible in long-distance relationships, but virtual options bring you a lot closer.
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Play with app-controlled or even synced sex toys while you're apart to sexually connect and keep the spark alive.
Long-distance relationships are the ultimate test of love, trust, and communication. When you're separated by miles, even time zones, keeping the connection alive is a bit like juggling flaming torches — challenging but oh-so rewarding when you get it right.
Human beings are social creatures, and we crave connection, both emotional and physical. So, it's no surprise that physical intimacy plays a crucial role in any romantic relationship, and that includes long-distance ones.
When it comes to long-distance love, the physical aspect sometimes feels like a mirage in the desert — you know it's there, but you can't quite reach it. While emotional intimacy flourishes through phone calls, video chats, and endless texting, there's no denying that the absence of physical closeness is a challenge. You just want to kiss them before work in the morning, cuddle up at night for a movie, hold hands while you run errands, and, of course, get hot and heavy in the sack.
The Effects of the Lack of Sex on a Relationship
Now, let's dive into the nitty-gritty of how the lack of sex affects a long-distance relationship. Here's where it gets interesting! You can't ignore the fact that not having physical intimacy is a frustrating experience. After all, we're talking about one of the most primal human instincts here. When that need isn't met, frustration can rear its head.
Many people preach that they don't need sex to be happy, trying to avoid the narrative that their relationship depends on sex. This is due to a societal stigma and expectations to not be sexual creatures. Well, people have needs! Don't feel scared to express yourself and find other avenues to sexually connect with your partner and pleasure each other from a distance.
The silver lining in this cloud of separation is that it forces you to get creative. Long-distance couples often find themselves exploring new ways to keep the flames of passion alive. Think of it as a culinary adventure — you've got to make the most of the ingredients you have!
Stronger Emotional Connection
Oddly enough, the lack of physical intimacy can sometimes strengthen the emotional bond. When you can't rely on just the physical aspect of your relationship, you tend to deepen your emotional connection, which is a beautiful thing. Separation does — in fact — make the heart grow fonder. Your loyalty and interest in one another are put to the test, and you discover whether or not you really want to be with this person. Plus, some time to lean into your independence is often healing.
Keep the Flame Burning
Surely, you know the struggles of being in a long-distance relationship if you're reading this. So, let's move on to some actionable advice. These tips help you maintain a passionate and fulfilling long-distance relationship:
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Open Communication: Talk about your needs, your desires, and your boundaries openly. Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship.
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Virtual Dates: Embrace the magic of virtual dates. Watch movies together, cook the same recipe, or even have an online dance party. It's all about making memories, even from afar.
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Set a Countdown: Mark your calendars with the dates you'll be together again. Having a countdown makes the waiting game a lot more manageable and even exciting.
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Stay Playful: Keep the flirtatious banter alive! Tease each other, send cute emojis, and indulge in some sexy talk — the mind is a powerful tool.
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Surprise Packages: Surprise your partner with thoughtful care packages or love letters. Include their favorite candy, a book you just finished, a sweatshirt that smells like you, a spicy Polaroid, or an app-enabled sex toy (controlled by your phone).
Long-distance relationships are challenging, but they're also a source of immense growth and connection. The lack of physical intimacy probably tests your patience, but it also provides opportunities for creativity, deeper emotional bonds, and unforgettable reunions.
Every relationship is different, and what works for one might not work for another. Take these tips, adapt them to your unique dynamic, and enjoy the adventure of love from afar. You've got this, and your long-distance love story is a beautiful tale of resilience, love, and app-enabled sex toys.
Virtual Sex
The future of sex toys is here, with countless options for app-enabled and even synchronized sex toys. Explore options according to your body's preferences and get your freak on with your boo anywhere in the world. If you're into this virtual sex experience, just wait for the future of virtual reality simulators and AI-powered sex toys. In July 2023, the first mind-powered sex toy hit the market. For now, let's focus on you and your boo orgasming together.
To play together, many couples enjoy getting on a video call to hear and see each other. Now, add your toys to the mix to feel each other. Start by talking to your partner about your desires and your fantasy for having virtual sex. Discuss your expectations, boundaries, and consent. Then, plan your first virtual sex date or get hot and heavy right away.
According to doctor of human sexuality and sex coach Dr. Emily Morse, "Mutual masturbation is when you and your partner are masturbating alongside each other. You’re both touching yourselves, letting each other see how you like it. Toys are 100% allowed…even encouraged!… Mutual masturbation is also an excellent option for anyone who’s in a long-distance relationship or travels often. FaceTime sex, anyone?"
Vaginal Toys
There's a huge market for sex toys for vulva owners. Most app-controlled and long-distance toys cater to this trend and offer plenty of vaginal toys. I guess the world loves to play with vaginas! Get in on the action and treat yourself or your boo to an app-controlled vibrator, dildo, or anything else you desire.
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Lovense Lush 2
For those of you who love a good internal vibrator, try out the Lovense Lush 2. This silicone, fully waterproof toy has a C-shape to snugly fit inside of you and hug your external pleasure zones while the internal egg brings deeper pleasure. It's flexible for your customization and hands-free wear. Connect the toy to your phone or your partner's phone to take full control. Sync it to the music for an interesting experience with your favorite artist or at the club. Enable group control to get your freak on and fulfill fantasies. Allow your long-distance lover to control your vibrator and bring your dual-stimulation orgasms from anywhere in the world!
Set vibration levels, choose from different patterns, and chat in their app. This toy is perfect for all of your app-controlled needs, including discreet use, an extra sexy date, or connecting sexually when you can't physically be together.
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The We-Vibe Sync
The We-Vibe Sync is a wearable vibrator for internal and external stimulation on vulva owners. Fully adjust this bendable toy to reach the perfect spot internally and give you clitoral pleasure. Connect the toy to your partner's app from a distance for long-distance play. It's fully waterproof to play in the bath too!
This toy doubles as a vibrator during penetration to bring both partners pleasure. Find the perfect place for it to sit and enjoy enhanced stimulation from the We-Vibe Sync.
Vibease
Invest in a toy for long-distance partner play or solo fantasy pleasure. This wearable vibrator fits snugly into your panties to stimulate your pleasure zone precisely. It sits hands-free, and the contoured tip gives pinpoint pleasure to your clitoris, with a little extra stimulation on your lips. The Vibease connects to your partner's phone through the app to control your vibrator in the next room, during work by surprise, or during a long-distance sex session. Double your possibilities by using it on your own in private and syncing the Vibease to an erotic audiobook!
Combination Toys
Want to play in sync with your partner? Some app-controlled sex toys now connect to your partner's toy to enjoy the moment together. Control the other's toy from your toy or find magic in your toy reacting to their body. The future of long-distance sex is here, and it's amazing!
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KIIROO Pearl2 and Onyx+
Both partners get to feel pleasure with a couple's set of toys! Choose from a vulva and penis owner set or a set for two penises. Hopefully, the WLW version comes next.
The KIIROO Pearl2 is an advanced G-spot vibrator that brings amazing internal pleasure to vulva owners. It's touch-sensitive to follow what your body is craving. It's controlled by a touch-sensitive pad on your partner's toy to play at the same time, controlled by your boo. There are some other vibrator options to check out too, if you want a clitoral vibe or a rabbit.
The KIIROO Onyx+ is a luxurious male masturbator that reaches up to 140 strokes per minute. Can your hand even go that fast? The rotating motor works in an up-and-down motion to bring you similar feelings of actual intercourse. While your boo is using their toy, you can imagine you're feeling each other, or at least appreciate the simultaneous sexual satisfaction! Use the swipe screen to control the G-spot vibrator or stroker of your partner from any distance.
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Lovense Max 2
Control a male masturbator via an app with the Lovense Max 2. Use app control to customize your solo experience or link with a partner to give up control. Even from a distance, the app allows your boo to control 360-degree contractions, strokes, and vibrations to bring you the pleasure they wish they could do themselves. Seven available patterns leave possibilities to find what works best for you. Set your stroker to group control or syncing to sounds to experiment or fulfill fantasies.
Pair your Lovense Max 2 with another one to pleasure both you and your male partner at the same time, or buy a bundle with the Lovense Nora Rabbit Vibrator with app control to play together.
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Lovense Nora Rabbit Vibrator
Indulge in all the magical pleasures of a rabbit vibrator with app control for your boo. The shaft of this cute, pink toy has waves and a curve to reach those internal pleasure zones so sweetly. Lovense Nora Rabbit Vibrator has an external, curved "rabbit" nub that's bold and flexible to perfectly stimulate your clitoris. Adjust the vibration and rotation levels directly from the app on your phone or allow your partner to take control from anywhere in the world.
The highlight: Your Nora Rabbit has the ability to connect to your partner's Lovense Max 2 or Nora Rabbit to react to each other's movement. This teledildonics feature is a revolutionary way to have sexual pleasure with your long-distance boo. Give it a try and see for yourself!
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Butt Stuff
Get freaky with your partner anywhere in the world with app-controlled anal toys. If you love anal stimulation and miss having your partner play with your booty, these toys are for you. They're perfect for control freaks that need to be in control of their own penis, clitoris, or G-spot to reach orgasm with a toy. Involve your partner in the fun and have more intense orgasms with long-distance butt toys!
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Lovense Edge 2 Prostate Massager
Lovense strikes again with amazing toys to connect with your partner from far away. The Lovense Edge 2 Prostate Massager has a perfectly angled and designed internal piece to hit your P-spot with precision and customization. A large bulb ensures stable use and placement, and a small neck below it ensures a comfortable fit without being too overwhelming. The external, adjustable piece has a separate motor to buzz your perineum at the same time! Give up control to your partner in the app for long-distance use, sync it to their toys, or play on your own to enjoy personalized P-spot stimulation.
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We-Vibe Ditto Vibrating Butt Plug
Do you and your boo have a thing for anal play? Stimulate each other from anywhere in the world with the We-Vibe Ditto Vibrating Butt Plug. Tell your partner you want to play, carefully insert it with some lube, and allow them to choose from different settings on the app. Combine your partner's booty stimulation with your own penile, clitoral, vaginal, nipple, or anything else stimulation. This is perfect for people who need to take a bit of control themselves with toys but still want their partner to participate.
It Doesn't Matter How Long of a Distance You Have; It's How You Use That Distance
Using app-enabled sex toys, sending spicy texts, or masturbating on FaceTime are great ways to find intimate, sexual connections when you can't physically be together. Of course, nothing is as sweet as actually kissing your partner or having reunion sex. Hopefully, these toys at least keep your separation bearable and quench your sexual thirst.
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