We’re here to talk about “butt stuff” and by that, we mean eating ass. It may have been something you have come across once before either in a naughty film or heard about from a friend of a friend. Sex and the City famously mentioned it in an early episode when main character Miranda got a surprise tongue-licking “back there” from one of her suitors. It’s been a sex act that has largely been kept hush in the past. But recently, eating ass is rising in popularity.
Why is “butt stuff'' suddenly becoming more mainstream? Well, it could be that more men and women are just now discovering the pleasures of anal stimulation. If you’re new to the party, we’ve got everything you need to know about eating ass.
What Is Eating Ass?
The terms eating ass, rimming, or annilingus refer to the sexual act of using your mouth to stimulate the anus. Basically, eating ass is oral sex for your butt. Sure, eating ass may sound like an odd, gross, or even unhealthy sex act to some. But when you think about it, is licking your partner’s butthole that much different than licking their other genitalia? Eating ass may be more popular than you’d think. Surveys show that up to 40 percent of men have eaten ass at least once during their sex life. While eating ass is often associated with homosexual relationships, straight men and women can and do perform annilingus.
For most of history, anal sex or anal play has been seen as taboo or unnatural. Today, men and women are much more adventurous. Anal play being taboo may be why so many adults enjoy it, though it likely has more to do with the nerve endings in the anus that respond well to stimulation. These nerve endings can even produce what is called an anal orgasm when stimulated correctly. Increased pleasure should be enough of a reason to want to delve into ass-eating techniques. Why stick to one hole when you can pleasure both?
Ass Eating Hygiene
Before giving or getting a rim job from your partner, it’s important to consider hygiene. Though ideally personal hygiene should be considered before performing any sex act, eating ass takes more thorough preparation. To put it bluntly, poop comes out of your butthole. Poop, as one would imagine, is not sanitary and can carry harmful bacteria like E. coli and salmonella. If you don’t clean yourself properly down there, remnants of fecal matter can still be present, so rimming runs the risk of transferring potentially harmful bacteria to the giving partner.
To avoid this problem, make sure you and your partner wash thoroughly before either one of you considers eating ass. Use an antibacterial soap to wash away any potential germs or leftover fecal matter. Depending on you and your partner’s preferences, you may also consider shaving or waxing your anus. Hair “in there” could be a nuisance when considering eating ass.
Avoid Certain Foods
Eating the right foods before an ass-eating can make or break your experience. It’s best to avoid foods that give you an upset stomach or make you gassy. We’re all human and sometimes embarrassing accidents happen. It’s also a good idea to avoid eating ass if you or your partner has been experiencing diarrhea. A stomach bug is evidence of harmful bacteria in the gut that could be transferred to the ass eater. Wait until you’re feeling better before you engage in oral anal play. Foods that are easy to digest are likely your best bet for avoiding messy or gassy digestive problems. Avoid foods like dairy or spicy foods that can upset your stomach.
Positions for Eating Ass
Facesitting
Facesitting, also known as queening, is an oral sex position often performed on a female partner. In the facesitting position, the giving partner lies on their back while the female partner straddles their face with her knees. The giving partner is then able to reach her vagina and perform oral sex. The facesitting technique can easily be adjusted to work as an ass-eating position for either gender.
The key to eating ass in the facesitting position is for the receiving partner to adjust their position over their partner’s face so that they have better access to their anus. As in the traditional facesitting position, the receiving partner should bear most of their weight on their knees to keep from crushing their partner’s face.
Another option for eating ass is the reverse facesitting position. In this position, the receiving partner will straddle their partner’s face, facing away from them. In this position, the giving partner will have better access to their ass. It may also feel easier for the receiving partner to do the reverse facesitting position because they are able to lean forward and place their hands on their partner’s chest for support.
Doggy Style
The doggy style sex position is one of the most popular sex positions for men and women alike. It makes for awesome deep vaginal penetration and doubles as an anal sex position. Eating ass in the doggy style position is incredibly easy for both partners involved. To do it, the receiving partner should be on their hands and knees with their legs spread slightly apart. The giving partner will be behind them, either on their hands and knees as well or kneeling. They can use their hands to spread their partner’s butt cheeks as they are eating ass in this primal sex position. The receiving partner is welcome to stay as they are or use one of their hands to reach back and stimulate their other genitals for even more pleasure.
69
What’s better than one partner eating ass? How about two partners eating ass at the same time? The 69 sex position involves two people positioning themselves so that they can each stimulate the other’s genitals at the same time. There are multiple ways to perform the 69 sex position, but the easiest way to do it may be by having one partner lie on top of the other. As in the reverse facesitting position, one partner should position their anus above their partner’s face while they lean over toward their partner’s bottom half. The partner underneath may have to bring their knees into their chest for the partner on top to reach their anus. Eating ass in the 69 position is likely best reserved for partners who are of the same height to make up for any difficulties reaching one another’s lower bits.
Legs Over the Head
The legs over the head position leaves the receiving partner wide open for getting the most pleasure from eating ass. Start by lying on your back on the bed. Bring your knees into your chest and wrap your arms around your thighs to keep them there. You can stay like this with your knees bent or extend your legs over your head, whichever is more comfortable. Your partner has wide-open access to all your naughty bits.
The legs over the head position works well for oral sex as well. However, if your partner performs oral sex and anilingus on you, be sure they don’t alternate between your anus and your genitals. You could spread bacteria from the anus to your vagina, which could cause a vaginal infection. Transferring bacteria from the anus to the penis could also lead to infection. If you and your partner are going for a double whammy, make sure you’re eating ass last.
Queening Stool
A queening stool is sex furniture used for facesitting. The stool is a small chair with a slit down the middle that leaves the receiving partner’s genitals and anus exposed. The receiving partner will sit on the stool while the giving partner lies below with their face beneath their partner’s exposed anus.
A queening stool makes the facesitting position easier on both the receiving and giving partners. The receiving partner can sit comfortably while the stool supports their weight. The giving partner will also benefit from the stool as they will not have to bear their partner's weight on their face. Queening stools work well for everyone but maybe especially useful for heavier partners.
Ass Eating Techniques
Eating ass is an art, much like oral sex is an art. To provide the best anilingus, you need to know what you’re doing. Firstly, understand that the most sensation lies in the nerve endings in the tiny crinkles of the anus. This little area around the anal cavity is where all feeling lies, meaning this is the spot to focus on if you want to give your partner an anal orgasm. Use your tongue here to create small circles to drive your partner wild. Then move to other areas of the ass, like the crack and inner butt cheeks. Use the following techniques to show your partner you're an ass eating professional:
Use More Than Your Tongue
Experiment with eating ass using more than just your tongue. Alternate between tongue stimulation and using other parts of your face, like your nose or chin. Doing so will come in handy when your tongue gets tired. Additionally, you can use anal sex toys to enhance your partner’s anal play experience. You can insert butt plugs, anal beads, or even dildos into the anus to provide extra stimulation. These can be used before, after, or while you’re eating ass. Anal toys give your partner a feeling of fullness that they may enjoy while you’re busy licking their anus.
Change Up the Speed, Direction, and Pressure
Excite your partner by changing up the speed, direction, and pressure of your tongue as you’re eating ass. They won’t know what’s coming and the different sensations will leave them quivering. You could even consider eating an Altoid mint or sucking on an ice cube beforehand. Eating ass with cold or minty breath will feel intensely good for the receiving partner, especially if you surprise them.
Use All of Your Tongue
Flatten your tongue against their anus so they can feel the full extent of your tongue’s surface area. They’ll love the feeling of your wet, soft tongue encompassing the whole of their anus. Gently move your flattened tongue up and down their anus and crack for an extra wet ass-eating session.
Try Rimming Lube
For extra fun, check out rimming lube. Rimming lube is flavored lube that is made specifically for eating ass. It can increase the wetness during annilingus and be a tasty treat for the giving partner.
Use Ass Eating As Foreplay
Eating ass feels great for the receiver, but it shouldn’t be the main event. That's because while annilingus is great for foreplay, it doesn’t often do the trick like other forms of sex.
Speaking of foreplay, though, eating ass can be especially useful as foreplay for anal sex. Anal sex can be painful for the receiver if they are not properly warmed up. The muscles in the anal canal are tight and need proper stimulation to relax enough for penetration. Eating their ass is one way to ensure they are ready for penetration.
Additionally, the anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina. To make anal penetration less painful for the receiver, it’s important to provide sufficient stimulation and lubrication.
Relax
Whether you’re giving or receiving a rim job, it’s important to relax. Leave your inhibitions behind and let your instincts take over. Being too much in your head can negatively impact your sexual experience, especially while eating ass. It can be difficult to let go of our ideas surrounding sex as far as what is and isn’t acceptable. You may have reservations about both giving and receiving annilingus that make it hard for you to enjoy it. Just remember that you are an adult who is entitled to do what you want. If you and your partner are into the idea of eating ass, then go for it. Don’t let your preconceived notions of what sex should be stand in your way of pleasure.
Communicate
Communication is the key to a satisfying sex life, even when it comes to eating ass. You and your partner should be communicating throughout your ass-eating experience. Tell them what you like and don’t like so that they can better satisfy you. If you’d rather they stuck to one area instead of exploring another, let them know. Your partner likely wants to do their best to please you, but they won’t know how unless you tell them. Make annilingus work for you by guiding your partner on how to do it right.
Similarly, you should be checking in with your partner when you are on the giving end. While eating ass, take a quick moment to talk to them. Ask them what’s working and what’s not. It’s easier for you to do your job better when you know what direction to go in.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Eating Ass
Sex is a tricky subject to talk about, even with a partner you trust. Sharing your sexual fantasies with them can be scary. You may be worried they will judge you or be repulsed by your desires. Eating ass has for a long time been a taboo subject. But it has gained much more popularity in recent years as a sex act performed by both men and women. If you are unsure of how to bring up your desire for anal play, casually mention it one day to gauge their reaction. Unless they’ve been living under a rock, they have heard about eating ass. They may or may not have tried it before, but that doesn’t mean they won’t be willing to do it.
Try talking to your partner about trying annilingus when you are both alone and relaxed. If your partner is relaxed and not distracted, they will be more receptive to your ideas. Explain to them that you want to try something new in the bedroom. In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel comfortable enough with one another to express their sexual needs. If this is something that’s been on your mind, let them know. Explain to them what eating ass is (a highly sensual experience) and what it’s not (something gross and shameful).
After you express yourself, give your partner time to think about it. Understand that not everyone will be into eating ass. No one should feel pressured to perform a sex act they’re not comfortable with. Eating ass might be one of those acts where your partner draws the line. If that’s the case, experiment with other sex acts that both you and your partner will enjoy.
Final Thoughts
Eating ass is quickly becoming popular in heterosexual relationships, and for good reason. The taboos around sexual acts are outdated and not based on reason. If you and your partner enjoy a little “back door” stimulation, then go for it. Your sex life is no one’s business but your own. Eat as much ass as you want and have fun doing it.
