Technology has changed almost every aspect of our lives. The prevalence of smartphones has made us always reachable through text messaging. Social media helps us get to know each other before we’ve ever met, and dating apps allow us to put ourselves out there with an endless choice for partners with little risk for face-to-face rejection. Because of these advancements in technology, texting and direct messaging have become our primary communication methods. Texting gives you the advantage of thinking of a response before sending it, giving you control over the conversation. But, there’s also the disadvantage of having to wait for your guy’s response. Watching those three dots pulse on your screen is agonizing! So how do you get him to text back quicker? Think of texting like a tennis match: there should be a back and forth. If you’re making the first move, it needs to give your guy something to respond to and keep the conversation going. Show him you’re interested but don’t give too much away, and send these 9 texts to get him chasing you and begging for more!
1. “Hey! I Checked Out That Show You Recommended, And Now I’m Officially Addicted 🙂 How Do You Know Me So Well?”
It is an exceptional first flirty text that’s also cute and casual. Sending your guy a quick message about a show you two discussed demonstrates that you were listening when he recommended his favorite show and that you’re genuinely interested because you followed through and enjoyed it. Now that he knows you’ve enjoyed his recommendation, you’ve opened up more opportunities for conversations centered around this topic. He may check-in to see where you are in the series and what you thought about a particular episode. Couples that watch TV shows and movies together experience a more profound connection through their shared interest in characters and plots. Having these shared connections with the on-screen characters can make up for the lack of mutual friends a couple might have in real life. Who knew that snuggling and turning on an episode of your favorite show could be the key to bringing you two closer? Take it further by looking for other shows or movies that are similar to the recommended show and follow up with: “I found this new show I think you’ll like, want to watch it with me this weekend?” Netflix and chill, anyone?
2. “I Just Finished a Book I Know You Would Love. You Should Come Over To Pick It Up.”
Your guy gave you a suggestion; now it’s your turn to give him one! Asking him to pick the book up from you gives you two the perfect reason to see each other and is a subtle way of asking him over to hang out. Proximity is key to romance. Get his attention with the recommendation and hook him with the invitation to come over. Put on your favorite cute and comfy outfit, make sure your living room is clean, and then do something else! You want to be in the middle of doing something when he comes by, so it doesn’t seem like you’ve been waiting all day for him to show up (even if you have!). Just make sure it’s not something that requires too much attention or that you can’t stop when he arrives. Answer the door with something other than the book in your hand, such as a bag of unpopped popcorn. You can say something like, “I’m just about to make some popcorn and watch a movie. Want to join?” Only give him the book if he asks for it! That way, he knows that you just wanted him to come over to spend time with you. He’ll be flattered, and chances are, he’s already forgotten about the book when he sees you.
Note: This text works best if he’s a big reader, but you can substitute “book” for anything you know he likes, such as a movie, restaurant, game, etc.
3. “You’d Love The Dress I’m Wearing Right Now.”
Want to come off as innocently seductive? Tell him how much he would like the dress you have on. Maybe he’ll ask for a picture or, better yet, you can tell him where he can see it on you in person. Men are very visual, especially where love and relationships are concerned. Asking him to meet you somewhere requires him to make an effort and chase you to get a glimpse of you in the dress. Make sure you have flexible plans in place already, such as going to get drinks with some of your co-workers or going to the club with your girlfriends. If you send him a picture, don’t send it right away. Make him want more by sending a picture of one part of the dress on your body. He’ll love putting the puzzle together and beg for a full-length shot. If you play your cards right, he’ll be admiring the dress on the floor of your (or his!) bedroom.
4. “I Saw This, And It Made Me Think of You.”
Make sure you follow this one up with a funny GIF or meme. Humor is a powerful turn-on. Send him funny memes that relate to something he said or did. It tells him that he made an impression on you and was on your mind. And, voila: the recipe to create inside jokes between just the two of you is yours! It’s also the perfect opportunity to see if he has a similar sense of humor as you. If you don’t think the same things are funny, then you’re not going to be laughing together in your relationship, and where’s the fun in that?
For dating couples, the use of humor contributes to relationship satisfaction. Couples that laugh together are more likely to stay together longer. But, you don’t have to be a stand-up comedian to make him laugh; find humor in the little things and everyday moments you share. Just make sure you’re not making him the butt of the joke. Having an aggressive sense of humor can be a bad sign in relationships in general, so you don’t want to start things off with the wrong kind of joke. The bottom line is: it’s good to have a sense of humor, better to see it in your partner, and best to share it. When joking, consider what’s essential to your boyfriend and not to joke about where he’s concerned. He has his own beliefs and experiences, and even if you have similar senses of humor, he won’t think everything you laugh at is funny and vice versa. And that’s okay!
What if you don’t find the same things funny? It’s not necessarily a dealbreaker. To better understand the type of humor your crush is into, you need to understand your sense of humor. It helps you balance out your senses of humor if you find that his idea of hilarity is not the same as yours. Once you understand what each other thinks is funny, engage in activities where you can enjoy comedic wavelengths of equal level by exploring the various types of humor. You’re bound to agree that at least one kind of humor is funny for both of you. It requires effort, but the laughter and connection between you are worth it.
Emojis allow us to get creative in our digital conversations and are a quick and easy way to convey emotion in an emotionless medium and get your guy’s attention. People who use emojis have more first dates and sex because we respond to emojis similarly to facial expressions, tone, and body language. We can’t see the other person’s facial expressions or hear their tone through text, and emojis fill in these nonverbal gaps. When testing the waters, you can’t go wrong with the classic winky face. It has the remarkable ability to make any text playful and flirty. It turns ordinary exchanges like: “What are you doing?”, “I’m going to bed” and “Can’t wait to see you” into flirty interactions that your boyfriend will love. The wink and tongue combo takes the sexual aura of your flirting to the next level. Use the eye emoji when you’re feeling bold or when you’re checking out his newest thirst trap selfie on Instagram. Though the meaning of the eyes emoji is somewhat ambiguous, there’s underlying sexual energy to it when used strategically. Love is a battlefield, and emojis are weapons.
If you’ve wanted to add a bit of play and sensuality to your exchanges but find sexting intimidating or awkward, adding an emoji or two can be a game-changer! Emojis can make you feel safer, light-hearted, and playful if typing something dirty makes you feel silly and vulnerable. When you’ve assessed that it’s appropriate in your relationship to kick the flirting up a notch and you’re ready to enter the sexting arena, try using the peach or eggplant emojis. We all know what this fruit and veggie mean in the texting world, and they’re a playful way to bring up bodies and sex without making it awkward.
6. “Big Spoon Or Little Spoon? Asking For A Friend ;).”
You can follow this text up with a picture of ice cream and two spoons. It’s playful and flirty at the same time. The double entendre will make any guy smile and put the idea of intimacy in his head. Double entendres appeal to men because they usually have sex on their minds. The average American thinks about sex eight times a day and talks about sex five times a day. If you send a text with a possible double meaning rooted in intimacy to your boyfriend, this increases the percentage. Next time you see each other, bring the spoons. He’ll laugh, and it will bring up the idea of intimacy again, but this time you’re in the same space and can act on it. Remember: proximity is key to romance. The text is a way for you to get closer to being in the same place at the same time, and you two can take it from there.
7. “Did You Smile When You Saw My Name Pop Up On Your Phone Just Now?”
Want a cute way to gauge how he feels about you? Ask him if seeing your name on his screen makes him smile. You can reciprocate and tell him how you always have the biggest smile when you see his name pop up, and he’ll be attracted to your confidence. Smiling releases serotonin and other feel-good chemicals such as endorphins through our body that produce feelings of well-being. It makes us feel happy and relaxed. If you and your partner always smile when you text each other, you both will start to associate that feeling with the other person. Did you know that smiling also helps us make better decisions? The endorphins and serotonin running rampant throughout your body when you smile can help you stay calm in stressful situations. Since dating and being in a relationship can be stressful, this is an essential advantage of using those facial muscles. Of course, smiling is not enough to overcome all of life’s problems, but it’ll make you happier around one another. It will continue to strengthen the bond you’ve created. Aww, so sweet, right?
8. Two Truths And A Lie
Two truths and a lie is a fun game to play with family, friends, people you just met, and, of course, your boyfriend. Even though it’s usually played in a group, you can play it with just two people over text. To start, text three statements about yourself. Two of the statements should be true, and one is a lie. Your crush then tries to guess which information is the lie. It’s a fun game to get to know each other and see how creative the other one is. Your statements can range from funny to flirty to dark, depending on your senses of humor. To make it more challenging, don’t leave the lie for the last one and don’t overexplain it. Keep it short, sweet, and believable. One strategy is to try to use one truth that seems so outrageous it couldn’t possibly be true to throw him off. Or you could keep all three statements at the same level of believability to make it extra challenging. While lying is not encouraged in any relationship, playing games helps you explore your playful sides, and in this context, the lies are not severe or personal, so get creative!
9. “I’m Still Wearing That Smile You Gave Me…”
It is a sexy text that is subtle yet highly effective. It’s the last of the 9 texts to get him chasing you will thrill him. It doubles as both a sexy and sweet message that’ll make him think of the fun, intimate time you spent together the night before. Your boyfriend will be thinking about you all day and will be counting down the minutes until he can see you again. Make sure you use this honestly because it compliments him and lets him know that he did a good job making sure you had a good time. To make sure your first time (and each time after that) having sex with each other is mindblowing for both of you, you need to communicate your needs, wants, and desires to your partner beforehand. As in all areas of a relationship, you cannot have a great sex life without communication. This conversation should happen where you feel safe and comfortable such as on the couch or the kitchen counter. It should be away from the bedroom to ensure honesty and openness.
Talk about EVERYTHING. Get on the same page about what this encounter means to each of you. Is this a casual relationship? Are you expecting the relationship to be monogamous? When was the last time you were tested for STIs? Next, it’s time to talk about the fun stuff: how do you like to be touched? What can I do to make you feel good? Discuss kinks, safe words, boundaries, likes, and dislikes. Make it fun and keep it playful, curious, and honest. If you’re nervous, try starting the conversation with the fun part explaining that you want to make sure that your first time together is great for both of you. It may seem unromantic or unsexy, but nothing is sexier than asking for what you want in the bedroom.
When it comes down to it, texts are primarily for playful banter when you’re getting to know each other or are apart during the day. These sweet and sexy texts will get the conversation going! Don’t be afraid to send flirty text messages, but keep it classy until you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level. You want to create a balance of flirty messages that are subtle and fun-loving. Then mix in mystery and intrigue. Keep it charming, sexy, and brief. Use the “rule of thumb” to determine how long your texts should be. If the text is longer than the first section of your thumb, then it’s too long! Keeping it short is an excellent way to keep the conversation flowing. It’s a tennis match, remember? If the ball is always on your side of the court, then he’ll have no reason to keep swinging. The whole point of texting is to get to the date!