Alright, so masturbation has definitely taken a few different turns throughout the past few centuries. Although there have been claims of masturbation being used in the past, none of them are necessarily proven. Apparently, Cleopatra used to use a gourd full of bees to stimulate her clit! Do you believe that?! To be honest, it’s not that far out there. We all know how bothersome it can be to not have an orgasm. So, no that theory was never technically proven, but it does make one feel a bit better for the females of the past.
Skip forward a few thousand centuries and well, here we are. Reading a free blog on the internet all about how to masturbate to your absolute full potential. Oh, how we live in the perfect century. Modern medicine has found serious perks to masturbating! Whether you masturbate during sex, before sex, or alone on your one night off, IT’S TOTALLY HEALTHY. Like most beautiful things, it might not be healthy anymore, but more on that later!
Sex can be tricky, it can be complicated, it can be uncomfortable, and reaching climax, well, it oftentimes can be impossible. CUE the vibrator!! With your sweet little battery-powered friend, you won’t have to worry so much about the pressure; your body should naturally feel more relaxed, and come on, the climax isn’t too hard to reach! How exciting is that? Don’t just stop at your clit, though, experiment ALL OVER; “Finding out what feels good will help you give your partner more guidance and make sex more pleasurable”. Okay, okay, getting a little bit ahead of ourselves here, back to the point! In order to use your dildo for maximum pleasure, check out the essential points below!
Proper Clitoral Stimulation
The clitoris, which is filled with nerve-endings that honestly might surprise you, should be understood by everyone. Seriously, they should teach more about it in school. It’s a great part of the human body. When correctly stimulated, this part of the body can provide owners with insane pleasure.
Okay, so for those of you that might not have their own clit or have never actually seen a vagina before, let’s take a minute and fill you in. In reality, the clit is really just one extensive tissue filled with an insane amount of nerve endings. It’s essential to understand this. According to Sex therapist Caitlin V. Neal “Two bulbs sit on the left and right side of the vaginal opening on the outside of the body (aka the vulva) . . . the clit sits on top, and the crura runs down from both sides of the clit towards the vaginal opening on the left and the right.” Yeah, that’s definitely a bit hard to imagine, especially if you’ve never actually looked at a vagina. Therefore, now’s the time to get your partner to spread her legs, grab a mirror and check out your own, or go to the one and only, trusty google.
Understanding the anatomy of the clitoris should be at the top of your list when trying to reach maximum pleasure. After all, the clitoris is “An organ whose sole function is the female orgasm”. That’s pretty amazing that the female body adapted with pleasure in mind. So, back to the topic at hand! Understanding the clitoris and the location of the clitoris is very important.
Looking for maximum pleasure during sex? Bring in the vibrators. Did you know that “Between 70 percent to 90 percent of women are unable to achieve orgasm with penetration alone”? In turn, vibrations and sex toys should be no stranger to the bedroom, and clitoris understanding should come above the right “hip thrusts”.
It’s no surprise that vaginas come in all shapes, sizes, and colors (have you ever seen Naked Attraction). So keep in mind that what works for one person may not work for another. This is why experimenting is usually the way to go when it comes to learning your body. It’s always a good idea to know how your body works before expecting someone else to! This definitely keeps things in the bedroom a bit spicier when you can instruct your partner; trust me, THEY LOVE IT.
Therefore, take a minute and follow these steps to find the proper clitoral stimulation for your vagina!
- Lubricate – Lubricating the area is the only way to ensure that there won’t be any discomfort during your masturbation session. The clitoris gets more sensitive as it gets more exciting “And although your vaginal tunnel is capable of creating its own lube when you’re turned on, the clitoris is not.” So lube it up and enjoy the ride.
- Take a little field trip – Take a mirror and explore your vaginal area! From your thighs all the way back to your butt hole if you want! Explore it all, look from different sex positions, and notice how your body changes. This will help you to know what you like, where you like it, and when.
- Be patient – Understanding the insanity of the complexity of a vagina does not happen quickly. It takes time to really understand your body and what you like. That’s totally OK! Take as long as you need.
- Mix up the patterns and the pressure – If you’re already using a sex toy, then, yeah, this is going to be great! If not, then just move your fingers in different ways. I find the middle finger is the easiest to control. A vibrator should work the same, move it across your clitoris and try more intense pressures or less intense pressures. Find what feels the best and where it feels the best.
Those are the four key points to discovering the proper clitoral stimulation for you! For your own personal, beautiful temple.
Masturbation – AKA – Sexual Medicine
Alright, so the best news about masturbation and using dildos is that it’s literally sexual medicine. Do you know why it feels so good to have an orgasm? Or even just to have sex? There’s actually a chemical reaction in your brain from it! Which, in turn, normally makes people happier and more peaceful; “The release of dopamine and oxytocin following orgasm can help to promote feelings of intimacy as well as rest and peacefulness”. If that doesn’t make you wanna whip out your dildo right now, I am not sure what will.
So let’s look at a few different ways that Masturbating will help you reach maximum pleasure in the bedroom or riding solo.
- Helps with Sexual Tension
Sex isn’t easy for everyone and a lot of the time reaching orgasm doesn’t happen. Leaving people to feel uncomfortable or unsatisfied. By building up sexual tension on your own by masturbating, well, that sexual tension tends to decrease for both you and your partner. Not only are you more comfortable with your body, but you also know your body, and you know what you want.
- Anyone can do it!
One of the best parts about masturbating is there are very few health risks. There are no worries about an accidental pregnancy, STDs, or cheating on a partner. This is literally available to anyone, even someone abstaining from sex. Sex is important and keeps a life balance, which is why your body wants it; “We, like all other sexual creatures, are subject to instinctive sexual desire triggered by appropriate criteria.” It’s important to note that one should never feel bad or like there’s something wrong with them if they have sexual desires. It’s literally just as normal as brushing your teeth.
- Promotes better sleep
Reaching orgasm makes you relaxed! Therefore, it’s no doubt that it’s easier to fall asleep. It’s important to really engage with your body and your pleasure hormones before bed; “Orgasming makes your feel sleepy, then it’s probably a combination of stress reduction, relaxation, increased happiness, and the placebo effect; you believe it will help you sleep and so it does.” Try it once and see how it goes.
- Reduces Stress
At this point, it should be pretty apparent that masturbating helps to reduce stress, but it’s vital to mention either way. It’s important to know the chemical reactions that are spread throughout your entire body just through the act of pleasuring yourself; “Masturbation releases hormones and neurotransmitters to help reduce stress and blood pressure while promoting relaxation.” Relaxation and stress relief go hand in hand. Calm the body, calm the mind.
- Enhances Self-esteem and Body Image
Probably one of the most critical parts of masturbation is the fact that it enhances the way we feel about ourselves. People who masturbate often spend a desirable amount of time with themselves. Not only do they spend time with themselves, but it’s also very intimate time, very personable; “Because you’re learning to enjoy your own body and figuring out what feels pleasurable to you, masturbation can boost your self-esteem.” Don’t get lost in the idea that you’re not good enough, explore your body and know that YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Your body is fantastic and should definitely be treated with the utmost respect. Check out the toy options below if you’re feeling down and out!
Dildo, Vibrator, and Sex Toy Options
As stated before, the body is so different! Exploring yourself should come before you invest in a sex toy. Understanding which parts of your clitoris need the most attention and which parts are the most sensitive is super important for proper sex toy stimulation.
Now, with that in mind. Sex toys can be a little bit intimidating at first. Whether it’s that super realistic dildo that seems just wayyyyy too big to fit in any of your holes. Or that super intense suction cup dildo that you have no idea what to do with, they can be intimidating, fortunately some of them aren’t! Here is a list of a few dildo options that you can enjoy! Some are for the most experienced and may come off intimidating to beginners.
Rabbit Vibrator
The rabbit vibrator first made its debut on Sex and the City! Surprising for the 90s, we know! But either way, it made its way out there and definitely cleared the way for where we are now. The rabbit vibrator is definitely a good place to start. Which is why we mentioned it first.
These vibrators come in a variety of different styles and are made to not only work with the clitoris but also with the G-spot found in the vagina. Pretty cool, double intensity. Amazing. Really, this one is totally worth a shot. Whether you’re a beginner or an expert, this bad boy will get you where you want to go.
Suction Cup Dildo
The suction cup dildo is kind of a particular species of its own. This dildo’s primary purpose is literally what it’s called. Suction it to anything and hop right on. Ride to your heart’s content! Suction it to the wall, go from behind to the table, and reverse cowgirl or even in the shower! There are so many options with this dildo, and find which position brings you maximum pleasure.
Vibrating Dildo
Alright, the vibrating dildo is most of the time referred to as a vibrator. And well, vibrators are great! The best part about them is that they can be used for both clitoris stimulation or vaginal stimulation. If you’ve located your G-spot and want to vibrate against it, go for it! If you don’t feel comfortable inserting the dildo into your vagina, then don’t. Simply enjoy clitoral stimulation.
Anal Dildo
Anal sex and masturbation play is always a whole new ball game. It’s definitely something that depends on personal comfort levels. This again, is why every body is totally different. Some people swear by anal play, while some people absolutely hate it. But one thing about the anal dildo “Is specifically designed to stimulate the prostate gland in just the right ways and can give you a mind-blowing prostate orgasm”. A prostate orgasm is definitely a totally different sensation, so it’s worth a shot.
Butt Plug
Well, double penetration is another one that tends to be a bit more intimidating but feels REALLY good. Butt plugs have hit the world a little bit differently and they don’t tend to be quite as popular but if you feel like anal stimulation helps you reach maximum pleasure, then give it a shot!
Wand Vibrator – Magic Wand
The magic wand vibrator is quite a special tool. It’s also not the most discrete. If you have roommates or are looking for something that is easily hidden then this probably isn’t for you! But if you don’t care who sees, this will give maximum vibration, ultimately leading to maximum pleasure.
Clitoral Vibrator
The amount of clitoral vibrators out there is insane! There are so many different options, coming full force with a variety of different vibration speeds, settings, and sensations. Honestly, exploring your sexuality has never been easier than it is right now. Actually, according to NYtimes, “The cordless Magic Wand Rechargeable is the best vibrator for clitoral stimulation.” With that in mind, as stated above, the magic wand comes with a few negatives but will bring you some serious vibration power.
Realistic Dildo
Using a realistic dildo can be a bit scary at first, but if you’re looking to relieve any sexual tension you might be facing, this is a pretty good option. This dildo will help you to understand your body a bit more and give you a better outlook on how your sex life might go with your next sexual partner.
It’s important to keep in mind that realistic dildos can be a little bit intimidating at first. Don’t be stingy with the lube! You can also try using a vibrator at the same time. Making sure that your body is ready for penetration is super important and might be a bit more difficult without the initial sexual tension as would be with a sexual partner.
Conclusion
Overall, one of the most important aspects of reaching maximum pleasure is learning about your body. There’s no discrete scientific formula designated for your body. With that in mind, though, understanding the overall anatomy of the vagina can definitely help you. It can help you to figure out exactly what’s going on with your body and why you’re reacting the way you are.
Starting out, it’s important to look past reaching ‘maximum pleasure’ and just learn about how to pleasure your body. Learning what your body likes and, most of all, what makes you comfortable. At the end of the day, orgasms make you relaxed, but if you’re tense and lost, you won’t ever quite get to that absolute maximum point.
So, before you go any further, get a mirror, lie down and check out everything in, around, and near your vagina. Explore, touch, and rub different places to get different feelings. Once you know the area quite well, it’s time to bring in the sex toys. Use the dildo, vibrator, or another sex toy of your choice. Stimulate away and enjoy some peace, relaxation, and of course, maximum pleasure.
