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    How To Give Your Partner the Best Blowjob Ever

    Cupid's Light StaffBy Cupid's Light Staff13 Mins Read
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    Giving your partner a blowjob is a great way to make them feel loved, appreciated, and desired. But if you’re unsure how to deliver the best blowjobs possible, you are not alone. Like you, many people feel a little lost regarding oral sex. Whether you are completely clueless about how the penis works or want to up your game to make your guy have the most fantastic orgasm ever, this article is here to provide you with 12 practical blowjob tips that will turn you into a fellatio expert.

    Are Blowjobs Normal Sexual Behaviors?

    To get the embarrassing questions out of the way, let us answer some common questions about blowjobs and oral sex. YES! Oral sex is perfectly normal sexual behavior. Although some parts of the world are still hush-hush about oral sex practice, it has been in human history dated as far as Kama Sutra, written around the fourth century AD. The text was first translated into English in 1883 by British Sir Richard Francis Burton. Although the text wasn’t allowed to be printed in the United States until the early 1960s, Kama Sutra was one of the most pirated books in English literature. 

    Are You Truly Bad At Blowjob?

    Most likely, you are not bad at giving blowjobs. Many people get the wrong impression that they must act like the porn stars to be good at blowjobs. In reality, the porn performers exaggerate their movements and reactions to sell the shot. At the same time, the blowjob receiver in these videos and Hollywood movies are likely to overact. So if you expect your guy to orgasm as they have just finished a marathon, you may be disappointed.

     Just because your partner is not groaning and moaning to your blowjob doesn’t mean they’re not enjoying it. If you are nervous about giving a blowjob, he may also be anxious, shy, or both on the receiving end.

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    Tip 1: Improvise and Stop Stressing

    If you are new to oral sex, it can be one of the most stressful experiences in life. Many people feel anxious about it because they worry about techniques, performance, and even hygiene issues. However, oral sex does not have to be complicated or stressful. In fact, it can be enjoyable if you take the time to relax and go with the flow. Here is an essential blowjob tip to help you ease into oral sex:

    – First, oral sex does not have to be perfect, and it is not a one-time performance. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Just relax and let yourself go. Every time you both enjoy the blowjob, it BECOMES a perfect blowjob.

    – Second, take some time to prepare. Make sure you are comfortable, and your partner is clean. This practice helps you feel more relaxed and reduce stress levels.

    – Third, focus on your partner’s pleasure; it is not about you or your performance. It’s about providing your partner with sexual pleasure. If you focus on giving them pleasure, you will likely find that you enjoy it more.

    Tip 2: Set the Right Mood

    It is a common myth that men think about sex every 7 seconds on a daily basis. An Ohio scientific study dispelled that theory and found the number roughly 19 times a day. It makes sense since there are so many distractions in life that preoccupy a person’s mind. Daily work problems and stress can bog down anyone’s mood and libido. If you want to give your guy the best blowjobs, start by setting his mind in the right pervy headspace. You can do that in several ways:

    1. Send him some sexy selfies while he is in the gym or at work. The photos will give him a sense of anticipation and excitement.
    2. Text him some suggestive teasing texts, dirty talk, or sexting.
    3. Suggestive gestures during public outings. Put your hand on his upper thigh and linger there, push your body slightly into his when you are sitting or standing side-by-side, and whisper in his ear to get him aroused.
    4. Cuddling. Nothing like close body contact works better to set the right mood.

    General Guideline For Setting the Mood

    We all have our arousal preferences. What may work for you may not work for them. Some guys are more visual, and a simple sexy photo will already do the trick, while others may prefer dirty scenario role play. What is important is to know what your man likes.

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    Tip 3: Bring Your Foreplay Game

    If you and your man are both into quickies, you may want to skip the foreplay and jump right into the main course. But if you like your guy to take his time and enjoy the special treatment, you will want to start with some foreplay. That slow sexual tension buildup will allow your guy to climax to that ultimate orgasm nirvana.

    So how can you slide into foreplay mode? The best way is to start with a sensual foot massage. You may wonder why the foot? According to the neural mapping of our body parts, the brain area responsible for reacting to the pineal stimuli happens to be next to the area that responds to feet sensation stimuli. And because our neurons are somewhat interconnected and can affect neighboring neurons, stimulating the feet can also trigger a happy place sensation for the penis.

    From there, you can move up their legs and inner thighs before going for their penis and testicles. You can move in and give them kisses around their groin, their crotch, and their penis. 

    Tip 4: Tongue and Blow Play

    For most men, the most sensitive places on their penis head and the V-shaped shaft below their penis, a.k.a. frenulum. The slightest touch and movement can make your man feel that toe-curling pleasure. Instead of taking his penis into your mouth, focus on the two spots with your tongue. You can flick those areas with the tip of your tongue like you are licking frosting off your fork. You can change the speed and the motion to see how he reacts. If you like experimenting, you can gently suck and blow hot air against those two areas. 

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    Tip 5: Keep It Lubricated

    When it comes to blowjobs, there are a few things to keep in mind to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for both partners. First and foremost, keeping your hands and mouth well-lubricated is important. It prevents chafing of your partner’s penis and your mouth corners. When we are in a heightened state during sex, a large amount of happy hormone oxytocin is released into our bloodstream to increase our pain tolerance. As a result, you and your man may not feel the damage until after sex. 

    So how can you keep your hands and mouth lubricated? You can use a lot of saliva. When you feel your hands are getting a bit dry, spit in your hands and return to position. If you suffer from dry mouth, you can rinse your mouth with mouthwash formulated to help alleviate dry mouth symptoms.

    Another way to solve the problem is to have plenty of lube on hand. When you are selecting a lubricant, make sure that it is safe for oral use purposes. Be sure to read the label, as the manufacturer will indicate whether the lube is safe for vaginal, penile, anal, or oral use. In general, you should avoid oil-based lubricants as it has the highest risk of causing symptoms such as diarrhea, nausea, and vomiting. 

    If you are feeling adventurous, don’t be afraid to experiment with coconut oil, olive oil, aloe vera, or even whip cream to make the blow job more fun. Just keep in mind to use food items that are easy to clean up. Nobody wants a mess that takes away the whole experience. Choosing something that won’t leave behind sticky residue or stain is highly recommended. 

    Tip 6: Involve Your Hands

    There are many ways to give oral sex, and involving your hands can add an extra level of sexual pleasure for your partner. Your hands allow you to cover more area and vary the pressure and speed of your movements. You can also use your hands to stimulate other parts of your partner’s body, such as their nipples, inner thigh, and  testicles.

    Using your hands during oral sex can also help to prevent you from getting fatigued and unnecessary injured. If you find your jaw starting to hurt, simply take a break and use your hands for a while. Even though you may achieve great results with just your mouth, you may end up with a sore jaw for several days. In addition, using your hands can help you control the pace and pressure of the oral sex. Sometimes, it is that little extra mile that turns a good blowjob into a fantastic blowjob.

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    Tip 7: Put Some Muscles Into It

    Oral sex is often considered a more gentle sexual activity, but that doesn’t mean you should be gentle with the penis. Being a little rough can be a good thing. Even though the tip of the penis area and the shaft area are sensitive to touch, the rest of the penis is less sensitive. Men tend to be quite rough when they masturbate. So instead of treating their penis like delicate flowers, you can treat it more like a garden hose. 

    You should always listen to your partner and stop if he shows any signs of discomfort. But if he’s enjoying it, don’t be afraid to experiment with different techniques and levels of pressure. Remember, oral sex is all about communication and experimentation, so have fun and see what works for you both.

    Tip 8: Keep The Teeth Away

    Most men cringe when they feel something hard and sharp against their family jewel. Their minds instinctively pull out the “STOP’ sign and kick into defensive mode. Unless your guy specifically requests for you to nibble on his sensitive areas, you should always keep your teeth away from his penis. 

    Easier said than done, right? It’s especially difficult if you have a small mouth and he is well endowed. You can easily cushion your teeth by slightly curling your lips inwards as if trying to even out your lipstick.

    Tip 9: Deep Throating Is Not a Must

    The guys who have experienced an orgasm during a deep-throating blowjob would describe the sensation as coming in two vaginas simultaneously. As a more elaborate explanation, the lips tightening around the penis creates a similar sensation as penetrating a vagina. But when a person performs deep throating and ejaculation occurs, the person involuntarily swallows the semen. The swallowing motion causes the throat to constrict around the penis and creates a soft kneading movement similar to that of a vagina during orgasm.

    In reality, this sensation is more psychological than physical. Many men cannot tell the difference if you use the hand trick to simulate the same sensation. So if you can’t get past the gag reflex, just use the hand trick.

    So how do you perform the hand trick? Simply place one hand at the base of the penis while performing oral sex on your guy. Applying some lubricant or saliva can create the same sensation in your inner throat. Synchronize your hand movement with your head motion. When you feel that your guy is about to reach orgasm, alter the tightness of your grip as you continue to pump his penis to simulate the throat massaging movement. Voila!

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    Tip 10: Keep It Simple

    When it comes to oral sex, many people try to overcomplicate things. They think they need to use a bunch of different techniques or do something very complicated routine to make the experience awesome. The reality is that oral sex is usually best when you keep it simple. Just focus on using your mouth, tongue, and hands to stimulate your man’s penis in a way that feels good. 

    And just like penetrative sex, changing too many positions can ruin the climax. If you plan to make your partner experience some mind-blowing orgasms, here is a simple formula to follow:

    First, start with slow, gentle movements. Use your tongue to tease and tantalize before taking the penis into your mouth. Gradually increasing the speed and pressure as he gets more aroused. You can try sucking onto the penis while giving him head. Pay attention to his body language and cues; if he starts thrusting his hips or moaning, you’ll know you’re on the right track. Keep the momentum going; you will see the fireworks go off soon.

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    Tip 11: Pillows Are Your Friends

    Pillows can provide many benefits during blow jobs. For one, they can help to minimize neck pain. When you constantly leaning over someone, it’s easy to start experiencing pain in your neck and shoulders. Pillows can help prop up your head and take some strain off your neck muscles. 

    And if you are on your knees while giving him head, your knees can take a real beating from the continuous pressure. So if you need extra cushioning while doing yoga, you will also need some pillows during oral sex as well. When you’re both relaxed and comfortable, you’re more likely to enjoy the experience instead of counting the seconds when he reaches orgasm. 

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    Tip 12: Communication Is the Key

    You may wonder how you can communicate when your mouth is preoccupied during oral sex, but communication isn’t just words. It is eye contact, hand gestures, sounds you make, and body language. Just as you can read whether your partner is enjoying what you are doing, he can see and hear whether you are taking pleasure in giving him a blow job.

    A fun part about blow jobs is the communication. You can use questions as a way to tease and please your guy. You can try something like, “I want to lick your dick. Do you want it stroked from the base to the tip?” If you feel a little shy about teasing, you can always ask them to give you the directions to please them instead. Either way, you will see their penis get excited from each direction you follow.

    And just like every aspect of a relationship, communication is key to healthy sex life. By asking about what he likes and doesn’t like, you can easily take guessing out of the equation and ensure that you and your partner are enjoying the experience. Ultimately, it’s about finding out what turns your partner on and getting him to that point of explosive release.

    Conclusion

    So how do you know if these tips work? If you notice your guy getting more handsy on you, suddenly wanting to spend more time with you than his buddies, and ogling at you with half-dreamy eyes, you have achieved blowjob expert status.

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