Conversations in both new and old relationships can sometimes be a scary concept. At the beginning of a relationship, there are so many new and exciting topics to chat about with your boyfriend! It's as if you'll never run out of things to discuss. Unfortunately, as time passes, you might get to a bit of a standstill and not have anything to discuss. The honeymoon phase is amazing and can potentially drain out all conversation topics you and your boyfriend have depending on how strong it is. At this point, it can become deafening to sit in silence with each other.
If you feel like you’ve reached a dead-end in the conversation area of your happy relationship, don’t fret! There’s no need to worry. Just because you’ve run out of things to discuss doesn’t mean your relationship is over or on a downward spiral. Surprisingly enough, according to Psychology Today, “Even the closest romantic partners can occasionally run out of things to talk about with each other.” So honestly, it’s completely normal, and you shouldn’t overthink it. Trust the relationship expert on this one, STOP OVER THINKING and get ready to learn some coping methods.
When running out of things to talk about with your boyfriend, there are so many resources, ideas, and activities to spark the conversation again! Although it might be a little bit awkward at first, once you both get used to the idea of using conversation starters or questions, you’ll learn much more about each other than you originally thought.
5 Conversation Activities
Alright, so before jumping into the different questions, ideas, conversation starters, and everything else, let’s look at a few different conversation activities. When it comes to conversation activities, the ideas are endless. Think of any new job or class you started that began with those awkward Ice Breakers. They’re awkward in big groups, but try playing your favorite Ice Breaker with your partner. It’s both fun and exciting because it’s with someone you care so much about, not a bunch of random people. So try these 10 conversation activities. Then continue reading for questions and different ideas to incorporate!
#1 Two Truths and a Lie
Two truths and a lie is such a fun ice breaker game. When it comes to ice breakers, it’s natural to feel nervous. But when it comes to using Ice Breakers in a relationship, it can be surprisingly fun. In this case, take the time to think of a convincing lie. Try to trip up your boyfriend and enjoy learning more about each other.
#2 Create a Bucket List
Learning about your and your partner's futures can be fun. Creating a bucket list is not only a blast, but it can also help you plan some trips together. The ideas of individuality can sometimes get lost in serious relationships. Therefore, remind yourself of your inner childhood dreams and live them out with your soul mate!
#3 What Do I Need List
Okay, this one is a bit of a stretch, but honestly might help you to understand both your partner and your relationship better. Happy relationships have understanding. Come up with a list of things you expect and want from your partner, as in what they do. For example, the first question could be something like this: My future husband will take out the trash. Have your boyfriend create a similar list. Read through them together and check yes or no.
#4 Popsicle Sticks
This one is a no-brainer and super fun. Create a jar of popsicle sticks with different conversations or topics written on them. If you have topics, you can choose one popsicle stick and try to make your conversation based on that topic. Make it fun with some of the most random topics you can think of, like Monkeys. Set a timer and see how long you and your boyfriend can chat about monkeys.
#5 Would You Rather
Would you rather is such a fun game and can not only help you get through those conversation lulls but can surprisingly also teach you a lot about your boyfriend. Therefore, either purchase a would you rather game, create your own, or download and cut out this free pdf. Either way, you and your boyfriend will laugh and have fun.
10 Conversation Starter Ideas
There are so many different conversation starters out there. Honestly, these conversations can be about anything you and your boyfriend feel. It’s especially important to come up with a list of conversation starters that are both lightweight and will affect the overall outcome of the conversation.
Various ideologies can affect how well the overall conversation may go. Understanding how these ideologies affect you, your boyfriend, and your overall relationship are essential.
A great conversation starter should spark an interesting conversation. So whether it's an interesting question, a fill-in-the-blank, or a sentence starter, it should be unique to spark a good conversation. The idea is to keep the conversation going for as long as possible. Start with an easy one like, “Talk about your favorite place as a child.” Then as the date night continues, spark up the intensity with one like “What does marriage mean to you.” These two questions can lead to quite an interesting conversation. Here are 10 conversation starter ideas to use on your next date night!
#1 What attracted you to be initially?
#2 When, Where, and How did you know you were in love with me?
#3 I’m happy when ____ because _____.
#4 Name two things we do well together.
#5 What are five things you are passionate about, and what makes you passionate about them?
#6 Both describe three strengths and weaknesses, then talk about how and why they work well together.
#7 Talk about your family dynamic throughout childhood
#8 Reminisce on the most special memories you have together
#9 You make me a better version of myself by _______.
#10. What’s your biggest regret?
10 Funny Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend
Regarding relationships, we often lose the play factor we grew up learning. Relationships need to have some version of play. Whatever that play is, it’s important to work with your partner and make sure you’re getting the most out of it, and essentially, both having fun; “Having fun together can help couples feel positive emotions, which can increase relationship satisfaction, help couples to unite in order to overcome differences and give hope when working through difficult challenges.” The fun thing about asking questions is that it’s one of the most basic social skills taught in early childhood. Therefore, as two functioning adults coming up with fun things to talk about can’t be that difficult.
Unfortunately, it isn't easy to come up with a fun question or, in general, fun things to talk about. Don’t worry. Everyone needs a little help at times, these 10 funny questions will spark a little fun, and interestingly enough, you’ll possibly even learn something new! Whether you’re taking these questions out on a date night or you built a fort in your living room, they’re sure to spark a fun conversation for the night ahead.
#1 If they were creating a movie about your life, who would you want to play?
#2 On the contrary, who would play your love interest?
#3 If you woke up tomorrow and we switched bodies, what would be the top three things you’d want to do?
#4 What were all of your nicknames growing up?
#5 What age did you stop wetting the bed?
#6 What is one thing you think about that makes you laugh?
#7 What is the most embarrassing item of clothing you ever wore?
#8 What was your most embarrassing moment?
#9 Tell me the craziest, wildest, or most funny (or all three) dream you’ve ever had.
#10 If you came with a warning label, what would it say?
10 Previous Relationship Questions
Okay, so now that all the fun and games have ended, let’s get into something more serious—past relationship Q&A. You may think that bringing up a past relationship is a bit of sketchy territory, but it’s pretty important to build a healthy relationship. If you’re looking into a long-term relationship with your boyfriend, you should be aware of some things. It’s important to ask questions and understand each other's past relationships. It will help foster the understanding and different ideas of what should happen in a relationship for both of you.
Although this might not be the most romantic question game you’ll ever play, it’s vital to understand your partner completely and probably grasp a bit more of an understanding of their mental health. It might be hard to get to know your partner without a total understanding of any mental issues and experiences. Which, in turn, might essentially harm the overall trust and openness in the relationship.
Therefore, knowing and understanding different aspects of one’s previous relationship will help you hold a more intense bond. It will also strengthen your weaknesses and give you an open space to feel comfortable chatting about things. It’s also important to keep certain aspects in mind when bringing up past relationships. It can sometimes bring insecurities if one talks about a past relationship too often or too intimately. Remember that this is about building a bond between you and your boyfriend, not about falling victim to the past. With all of that in mind, here are ten previous relationship questions to ask your boyfriend:
#1 How did you lose your virginity?
#2 How many relationships have you had?
Not to be confused with how many sexual partners you’ve had, as this can be a complicated and uncomfortable question for everyone.
#3 Do you still talk with your ex? What’s the relationship like?
#4 What was the final factor that played into your breakup?
#5 How serious was the relationship?
#6 Were they close to your family?
#7 Are you sure you’re totally and completely ready to move on?
#8 Do you still follow each other on social media?
#9 What did you use to fight about?
#10 Has anyone ever cheated on you? Have you ever cheated on anyone else?
10 Long Distance Relationship Conversation Ideas
Creating a positive and successful long-distance relationship can be super challenging. Although it’s challenging, it’s not impossible. There are more successful long-distance relationships than you might think. Long-distance relationships are becoming more and more common among the younger generation. Lucky for you, becoming increasingly popular means there’s also a rise in different resources for LDRs (long-distance relationships).
One of the hardest and most important aspects of an LDR is no doubt, communication. When it comes to communication, knowing different questions and conversation ideas is vital to keeping up with each other’s lives. In the 21st century, it hasn’t been difficult to find a way to communicate with loved ones. Which makes LDR so possible at this time, but finding different things to talk about without physical touch or kissing can be quite the process. Here are 10 conversation starters and questions to get you through a video chat rut!
#1 Work together to make lists of your goals! Feed off of each other and come up with measurable goals.
#2 Physical, mental, and emotional health check-ins are a great topic and could lead to a deeper sense of trust and vulnerability.
#3 Talk about hardships.
#4 Discuss what is bothering you inside and outside the relationship.
#5 Talk about personal topics that you haven’t been able to share with anyone else.
#6 Talk about memories or future plans.
#7 Close your eyes and make believe you’re somewhere together. Talk to each other through the imagination.
#8 Have a heated debate (be careful with this one)
#9 Basic questions like; Did you play sports as a child?
#10 If you could go anywhere with me, where would it be?
10 Deep Questions
Last but certainly not least, deep questions. Deep questions are some of the most important conversational pieces you’ll have in your adult life. Especially if they’re with someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with. If you and your boyfriend are in a strong, committed, healthy relationship, it might be time to break out these deep questions on your next date night.
Asking and answering deep questions allows you to get to know the deeper parts of each other and strengthens your bond. Don’t be afraid to ask the tough questions, and don’t be afraid to answer them! They can be some of the most important building blocks for the relationship's future.
#1 Do you want children? How many?
#2 Have you ever been engaged or married?
#3 When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?
#4 What are the five most beautiful things in the world?
#5 Where do you see yourself in five years?
#6 What makes you feel most empowered?
#7 What makes you feel most vulnerable?
#8 What was the worst day of your life?
#9 Is there anything about our relationship you don’t like?
#10 Do you see me in your future?
Conclusion
Asking questions is a vital part of every successful relationship. But it's also vital to have a strong sense of overall communication. Communication is built on various aspects throughout the entire relationship and only grows more and more important with age. Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or living together, communication should hold a place in both of your minds. Along with that, it’s also important to find different coping methods and techniques when those communication moments seem to be harder and harder to find.
When it comes to ensuring the communication in a relationship is strong, it’s not about how much you talk but how much you listen and understand each other. After the honeymoon phase and as relationships become more serious, there can sometimes be a standstill in the overall conversation. That’s totally and completely normal, but not always super fun. It’s important to have a few tricks up your sleeve to keep conversations going and build a bond. Using the abovementioned 55 questions and activities will help reach various levels of love, lust, and, most importantly, fun.
