If you and your partner are looking to get a little crazy this weekend, look no further than the pile driver sex position. In case you didn’t know, a pile driver is a construction tool that’s used to drive piles into the ground to lay foundations for buildings. Basically, it’s a big drill that makes big holes in the ground. Sounds sexy right? Well, you and your partner won’t be drilling holes (your cervix may disagree), at least not literally, but it might look that way. As you may have guessed, the male partner (or partner with a strap-on) will be doing the drilling while the female partner (or receiving partner) will be, for lack of a better word, the hole. This is an advanced move that can be used for penetration both anally and vaginally. It’s not for the faint of heart, so make sure you and your partner have stretched and are ready to lay that foundation into the ground. If wild is your thing, then sit back and have the pile driver sex position explained to you and why you’ll want to try it.
What Is the Pile Driver Sex Position?
The pile driver sex position involves the male partner penetrating his female partner whilst squatting over her, as her legs are stretched back over her head, and she balances on her neck and shoulders. If you got tired by simply reading that last sentence, you’re not alone. The pile driver sex position is strenuous for both parties involved. To get into the pile driver sex position, the female partner will lie on her back on the bed or ground. She’ll then lift her legs and stretch them over back behind her head, or as far as she can make them go. The male partner can help by grabbing onto the back of her calves or ankles and pushing down on them. This should cause her butt and torso to rise in the air while her neck and head remain on the bed or ground. The male partner will then stand or squat over his partner’s bottom and slowly penetrate her.
Why He’ll Enjoy It
The male partner will have total control in the pile driver sex position. It’s perfect for couples who like the dominant/submissive dynamic in the bedroom. The pile driver sex position can even make a great sex slave position or be incorporated into BDSM role play. This is great for guys who like to take the reins in the bedroom. It also allows for some seriously deep penetration and full access to his partner’s naughty bits. He can feel free to caress her backside or play with her clit. Plus, he gets a great view of his partner’s breasts bouncing directly below him. He’s free to fondle them (if he can reach them in this position) and stimulate his partner’s nipples, which are a known erogenous zone on a woman’s body. While intimacy is hard to achieve in the pile driver sex position, he can look straight into his partner’s eyes while he thrusts. Gazing into each other’s eyes can make the pile driver sex position feel more intense and intimate. But, honestly, are you using the pile driver to become closer to your partner, or are you using it to blow your partner’s mind? Exactly.
Why She’ll Enjoy It
As you might have guessed, the pile driver sex position is not the most comfortable position to be in as the receiving partner. It puts a lot of strain on the neck, which can be painful after only a few minutes. However, the pile driver sex position can be enjoyable for ladies who like to be dominated by their man. In the pile driver sex position, the female partner has no control over what her partner does (safeword usage is highly recommended!). She’ll feel very vulnerable and maybe a tad bit degraded, which is a kink for some couples. She might like feeling her partner’s weight on top of her as he thrusts into her from above. Additionally, the pile driver sex position leaves her clit fully exposed and perfectly positioned for her partner to play with. Most women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Having her partner stimulate her clit with his fingers or a sex toy will make this position much more enjoyable for the female partner. She can also do this herself if her arms are long enough to reach her clitoris in this position. If not, she can instead give her man a show by playing with her breasts. He’ll, no doubt, love the added visual stimulation.
Tips for Doing the Pile Driver Sex Position
The pile driver sex position tops the list as one of the more physically demanding sex positions. Both partners will need to be somewhat physically fit to attempt this move, especially for any length of time. Both partners might want to consider stretching their legs before getting into the pile driver sex position, especially the female partner. Her hamstrings will get quite a workout in the pile driver sex position, so she should have some level of flexibility before even considering this move. She’ll also have to feel comfortable putting pressure on her neck as most of her weight will be concentrated there. This can be quite strenuous, especially if she has any neck or back problems. And if couples decide to do the pile driver sex position on the ground, make sure there is a pillow underneath the female partner’s head for more comfort. Intensely physical sex positions like the pile driver sex position should only be performed for short amounts of time. If the female partner is exceptionally flexible, then it will likely be easier on her. Regular yoga workouts will pay off when attempting the pile driver sex position.
While a lot of the strain will be on the female partner’s neck and back, the male partner may also feel some strain. However, his strain is more likely to occur in his penis. The suspensory ligaments in the penis are responsible for holding the penis close to the pubic bone. They also make it possible for the penis to become erect. When the suspensory ligaments become strained, it can be very painful. This can occur if the penis is bent in an unnatural way. In the pile driver sex position, the penis will be forced downward which may cause some discomfort for the male partner if he doesn’t do this carefully. By leaning forward more he may be able to reduce some of the strain on his penis. The male partner will also be putting some strain on his quads as he will be required to squat over his partner while doing the pile driver sex position. He can take some of the strain off his legs by sitting on his partner as he thrusts. This should be attempted carefully though as sitting on his partner could put too much pressure on her neck and shoulders. This will likely not be possible if he is much bigger than his partner.
Similar Sex Positions
The pile driver sex position is challenging to do and maintain for longer than a few minutes. However, if you like the idea of deep penetration in a slightly more comfortable position, check out some of these similar sex positions below:
The Anvil
Like the pile driver, the female partner will lie on her back and bring her legs up to her chest. The male partner will straddle her, this time with his knees on the bed. He can then place his hands on the back of his partner’s thighs to push her legs down even more towards her chest. She can either keep her knees bent or straighten them so that her feet dangle behind her head. From here, the male partner will thrust into his female partner either vaginally or anally, whichever they prefer. The anvil sex position allows for deep penetration and possible G-spot stimulation, which can lead to an intense orgasm for the female partner. The anvil sex position is relatively easy for both partners to do, but the female partner will be getting a deep hamstring stretch. She’ll need to be sure she can keep her legs stretched behind her head for at least a short period of time. To alleviate some of the stress on her hamstrings, she can leave her knees bent.
The Deckchair
If you and your partner like sex positions where the male partner gets to bear some of his weight on his partner, then you’ll like the deckchair. Both sex positions (the piledriver and deckchair) are similar in this way. The female partner will be lying on her back with her knees drawn up to her chest. The male partner will lean forward over her and place each of his arms underneath each of her knees. The female partner can then drape her calves over her partner’s shoulders while he leans into her and thrusts in and out. He can alternate between having his hands on the bed or holding his partner’s thighs for more thrusting power. Couples will enjoy the deckchair for its sexy, animalistic feel (when animal-style is not only for burgers and fries). Nothing’s hotter than being fully exposed while your partner on top takes total control. If you want to amp it up even more, the male partner can bring in a little kink into the bedroom and lightly place his hand around his partner’s neck. The female partner can, in turn, use her fingernails to scratch her partner’s back while he’s thrusting. The deckchair sex position doesn’t take a lot of effort on either partner’s part, so couples will find this one easy to do. You can add this one to your list of sex positions when you’re looking for a step-up from missionary.
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The Brute
The brute sex position is, essentially, the deckchair sex position but in reverse. The female will be in the same position on her back with her legs bent and lifted. The male partner will straddle her in reverse so that he is facing away from her. He can hold onto his partner’s thighs as he thrusts to give him more leverage. It’s likely called “the brute” because the male partner’s positioning will look rather bestial. This sex position allows for no intimacy whatsoever. The male partner gets nearly all the benefit from this move, though that’s only if he’s into dominating or degrading sex positions. The female partner will like this move for the same reasons if she’s also into such sex positions. While there is a relatively low risk of injury in this sex position, the male partner will need to avoid straining his penis too far forward. The brute sex position requires him to penetrate his partner in an awkward, downwards angle, which may be uncomfortable, unless you’re into that sort of thing.
The Launchpad
In the launchpad, the female partner will be on her back with her knees bent and drawn to her chest (beginning to see a theme?). The male partner will be on his knees in front of her. The female partner will place both of her feet on her partner’s chest as he penetrates her. The female partner will keep her legs where they are as he thrusts in and out while holding onto her thighs for leverage. This is a favorite among both partners for this sex position’s ability to provide tight, deep penetration. The female partner will like the launchpad because she has control over how deep her partner can thrust. If her partner goes too deep, she can simply press back against him with her feet. She can also choose how tight penetration is by changing up her foot positioning. To make it tighter she can move her feet inwards and press her legs closer together. This can also make the possibility of G-spot stimulation easier, especially if her partner leans in more during penetration. You and your partner will likely add the launchpad to your list of favorite sex positions for all of the above-mentioned reasons.
Pile Driver Sex Position Safety
Always check with your partner before you attempt new sex positions. Sex positions should be enjoyable for both partners, not just one of you. Talk to your partner beforehand about trying the pile driver sex position or any of the similar sex positions mentioned in this article. Be sure that each partner understands what’s expected of them in the pile driver sex position. If, at any time, one of you becomes uncomfortable, stop immediately and take a break or switch sex positions. The pile driver sex position is not for the faint of heart and requires difficult positioning for the female partner. Her neck will be bent at an uncomfortable angle, which could lead to a neck injury if strained too hard. She may also become dizzy in this position due to the rush of blood to her head from basically being upside down. It’s important to check in with her to ensure that she’s comfortable. Female partners should also be proactive about letting their partners know of any discomfort they may be feeling while doing strenuous sex positions. In the heat of the moment, it may be difficult for him to pick up on signals that she is uncomfortable. It may even be difficult for her to voice her discomfort because of the way her neck is bent in the pile driver sex position. Consider using a hand signal or other form of communication to alert your partner when you need a break during sex positions. However, a firm slap on the ass might not be an effective signal for him to stop, and could just encourage him further.
Don’t Do It if You Have a Bad Back or Bad Balance
The pile driver sex position can be a strain on the female partner’s back. If she has any kind of back problems, don’t attempt this sex position or switch sex positions at the first sign of discomfort. The male partner won’t be straining his back nearly as much, but he will be crouching in an upright position the entire time. This may be painful for him if he has any prior back injury as well. He’ll also have to be sure he has enough balance to maintain the awkward crouch over his partner, especially if he’s standing on a bed. For this reason, the pile driver sex position might be best attempted on more solid footing. He could seriously hurt his partner if he were to lose his balance and fall on top of her. That would not be a fun ER trip to explain.
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The Takeaway
The pile driver sex position makes our naughty list for being both erotic and near impossible to do. If you and your partner navigate the pile driver sex position with ease, then congratulations! You two must be exceptionally fit human beings! For the rest of us, the pile driver sex position will produce some difficulties. If it becomes more work than fun, switch sex positions for something more comfortable. At least you can say you tried it, right? Experimenting with sex positions makes date night more fun, and, in the end, that’s what sex should be about. So, if you have fun doing the pile driver sex position explained, then it’s well worth your time and effort!
