There’s going hard in the bedroom, and then there’s
Don’t worry; you’re not alone. At least 69% of the population have fantasized about rough forms of sex. That means it’s more common than you might think to enjoy going hard in the bedroom. But fantasizing about
What Is Hard Sex ?
To understand what
Now that we’ve cleared that up let’s get into what
It’s common for both men and women to enjoy forceful sex for their reasons. While
Common Hard Sex Acts
Slapping: Slapping is a type of
Fast Hard Penetration: Fast and hard penetration is a rough sex act that many couples enjoy. You and your partner can experiment with fast, hard penetrative sex vaginally and anally. Just be sure to use plenty of lubrication to avoid discomfort or injury, especially during anal sex.
Bondage: Bondage is the act of restraining one partner during sexual activity. Ropes and handcuffs can tie one’s wrists, legs, or other body parts. During bondage, the dominant partner has complete control. It will help if you take certain safety precautions when experimenting with bondage. There are safe bondage techniques that all would-be BDSM fetishists should learn before tying their partners up. It’s also important to note that restraints should never be applied to the neck as that can cause asphyxiation.
Light Choking: Light choking dominates one’s partner into submission. When your partner has their hands around your throat, you are under their control. It obstructs your airway, which adds an element of danger to sex. Though light choking can be sexy when done right, it can become a safety concern if your partner doesn’t know their strength.
Dirty Talk: You’ve likely engaged in dirty talk with your partner before. It’s fun sending your lover naughty thoughts (or pictures) while they’re busy at work. You may enjoy dirty talk in bed as well. Incorporate more dirty talk into your sex life for more raunchy excitement. Dirty talk is considered an act of
Sex Toys: Rough sex can often involve sex toys to get the pain and pleasure flowing. You can use nipple clamps, blindfolds, vibrators, and anal plugs during rough sex. Sometimes they are used to tease, such as using a vibrator to bring you close to orgasm, then stopping. Other times they are used to dominate or inflict pain, such as the use of nipple clamps. The use of sex toys during aggressive sex is for the more experienced, but know that they are always an option.
Biting/Scratching: Biting and scratching during sex could be considered animalistic behaviors. Scratching your partner’s back or biting their neck while on top of you is sexy. It allows you to express your animalistic passion and leaves them with a mark of love. Of course, the idea is not to scar your partner or break the skin. Biting and scratching should be light enough to give them a tingle. If you engage in this form of rough sex, make sure you file down your nails beforehand.
Why Do People Like Hard Sex ?
Dominant Versus Submissive
During
These acts are enjoyable for individuals who enjoy either being submissive or dominant. Submissives love the exhilaration of letting go of their control, while dominant partners like taking it. It’s sexually satisfying for both partners.
It’s Primal
Sex can be an aggressive act when passion and longing are involved. Have you ever wanted your partner so badly that you wanted to grab them by their hair and force yourself upon them?
Most of us would agree that something primal about being thrown on the bed and passionately ravaged by your partner. Our sex drive, passion, lust, and desire are primal instincts that have kept the human population going for centuries. Fortunately, self-control is also a human characteristic, meaning we know better than to do these things to our partner without asking. But when you are with a consenting partner you trust, giving in to these primal instincts can feel euphoric.
It’s an Adrenaline Rush
The pain-versus-pleasure sensation during sex is what some people find so thrilling about
It Plays Out a Fantasy
Similar to how
For some women who fantasize about forced sex, it could say something about their sexual relationship. Women who feel ashamed of their sexuality, for example, may fantasize about being raped because it absolves them of guilt for wanting sex.
How to Have Hard Sex
Have the Conversation
Broach the topic of
Whenever and wherever the conversation occurs, explain to your partner why you want to try
Some people have trouble talking about sex, especially their wants and needs. Many people think sex is shameful and therefore have difficulty opening up to their partner about their fantasies. Make your partner feel as comfortable as you can to get their honest feedback. By sharing your true sexual desires, you may make it easier for them to be more open with you. A good partner will want to make you happy by trying things you like.
Remember, however, that everyone has their limits. Be prepared if your partner rejects your request. If they are not keen on the idea, then find a sex act you both can enjoy equally.
Communicate
Communication is key to having a satisfying sex life with your partner. It’s essential to communicate with your partner about your likes and dislikes in the bedroom. It’s equally as crucial for partners to respect each other’s boundaries. If you and your partner are interested in
Remember that communication should be exchanged throughout sex for each partner to understand the other’s likes and dislikes.
Safe Words
Forced sex scenarios often involve the submissive partner resisting with false protestations of “no” or “stop.” It makes it difficult for the dominant partner to know whether their partner truly wants them to stop or if it’s part of the act. In such situations, safewords are for clarification. Safewords are words chosen to represent when a partner wishes to stop sex. You can use any word as a safe word. Sometimes the more ridiculous, the better (like pineapple or lemon ball). When someone says this word, the dominant partner knows they’ve gone too far and should stop.
Safety and Prep
Female partners should pay extra attention to their vaginal health as forceful penetration can cause microtears in the vaginal walls. These tears may make urinating somewhat painful but often heal themselves. To avoid potential tears, be sure to use ample lubrication. Rough sex in a dry vagina can cause tears and discomfort.
Should you incorporate any bondage into your sexual activities, be sure to have rope shears or the handcuff key conveniently nearby. In case of an emergency, you will want to be able to remove the restraints quickly and efficiently.
Start Off Easy
Start slow and easy when trying
Is Hard Sex for You?
If you’re not satisfied with your sex life, trying new sex acts can help to spice things up in the bedroom. Experimenting in the bedroom allows you to understand your sexuality better. You’ll learn more about your likes and dislikes. You never know what you like until you try it, right?
However, it’s perfectly normal to feel uncomfortable with trying new things. You should never feel pressured to do something you don’t like. Some of us know ourselves well enough to know what we don’t like, even if we haven’t tried it. It is never okay to pressure, coax, or intimidate someone into doing something they don’t want to do.
But if you like it, there’s nothing wrong with that either. Never be ashamed of what you desire in bed. If you’re not hurting anybody, what you do during sex is no one’s business but your own.
Final Thoughts
Talk to your partner about trying