Hot older women like Kim Kardashian, Megan Fox, and a slew of female celebrities prove that motherhood does not diminish your attractiveness. These women are some of the most beautiful women in the world, and, shocker, they are in their 40s. Ageism is a sexist construct that is entirely one-sided. Men can age like fine wine. Women, however, lose their worth after the age of 35. The sexy MILF defies society’s beauty standards for women and proves that older women are just as desirable.
The Sexy MILF trope, though more popularized in today’s culture, is not new. Young men have been fantasizing about hot older women for decades. Many movies depict younger men’s obsession with the mysterious, sexy MILF. But what exactly is a sexy MILF, and how do you become one yourself?
What Is a MILF?
The term MILF is an acronym for “Mother I’d Like to Fuck”. It describes an older woman, old enough to be a young man’s mom, whom a young man would like to have sex with. A MILF is every young man’s fantasy of banging their best friend’s mom. The Fountains of Wayne described the younger man and hot older woman scenario in their song “Stacy’s Mom.” A younger guy fantasizing about a woman old enough to be his mom is common. According to one survey, 88% of men have fantasized about being with a sexy MILF. MILF porn is a popular genre in online porn and only seems to be growing. To be clear, a sexy MILF does not necessarily need to be a mother. A MILF is a general term used to describe an attractive older woman who younger guys want to date.
While it’s common in our society for younger women to date older men, an older woman dating a younger man is almost taboo. Older women are supposedly not considered sexually viable to young men (or older men, apparently). An older woman dating a younger guy is not the norm. Society deems older women past their prime and should no longer be part of the dating pool. Older women who dare to reject these norms are often shamed for their sexuality. It’s taking society a while to get past the revolutionary idea that a woman’s sexual desires don’t cease after age 35. Most women hit their sexual prime in their 30s. So why is the idea of an older woman being sexually active so taboo?
Why Men Love MILFs
Despite society’s backward views on women’s age and sexuality, men love and have always loved a sexy MILF. It’s becoming more common for a younger man and older woman to be in a happy long-term relationship (think Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or Lisa Bonet and Jason Mamoa). A sexy MILF proves that age is just a number. A woman can be as sexy and desirable as she wants to be at any age. But what specifically is the allure of an older woman for a younger man? Why do men love MILF’s?
First, let’s point out that while younger men have always had an attraction to older women, the sexy MILF trope has been exaggerated and fetishized in porn and popular media. So much so that there are entire dating sites and dating apps created specifically for young men who want to meet MILF’s. A young man may fetishize an older woman because of what he thinks a sexy MILF is. In porn films and popular media, MILF’s are a twist on the “cool girl” trope popularized by the main character’s monologue in the 2014 thriller “Gone Girl.” A sexy MILF is the “cool girl” because she is “better” than the young women young men usually get.
A Sexy MILF is Mature
Thanks to her long time on this earth, an older woman is mature. She doesn’t play mind games as younger girls do in dating; she’s way past that. A sexy MILF is emotionally stable. She knows what she wants and doesn’t beat around the bush. Young men don’t have to worry about figuring out what a sexy MILF is thinking because she is upfront with how she’s feeling. She maturely handles arguments and doesn’t let her emotions get the best of her. According to men’s idea of a sexy MILF, older women hardly have emotions. They are like men in that way. They don’t pick fights or get upset when their boyfriend messes up. Nope, they laugh it off and let it roll off their shoulders because they are mature.
A MILF is Hot
Above all else, a sexy MILF is, well, sexy. She is a hot older woman who has somehow defied the natural laws of aging. A sexy MILF might have the occasional fine line or wrinkle, but her big tits and butt are as perky as ever. A MILF is every man’s fantasy of combining wisdom with hotness. She takes care of herself. The fact that she has had children led a successful career, or taken care of a family hasn’t in the least bit interfered with her ability to look hot. A sexy MILF finds time to go to the gym, eat healthy, stay slim, and avoid getting stretch marks. But she’ll never let you know how hard she works to maintain her perfect appearance. Oh, no, it’s practically effortless. She’ll never complain about being insecure about her looks because she’s older and more confident, of course. A sexy MILF knows how to be hot all the time.
She’s Great in Bed
A sexy MILF is a sexually experienced woman who knows what she likes in bed. She’s been around the block and knows a thing or two about getting it on. She can even teach a thing or two to the lucky young man who gets to sleep with her. A sexy MILF doesn’t mess around with her pleasure in bed. She tells a man exactly what she wants and tells him how to do it. Not like younger girls who are inexperienced or insecure in bed. Putting the work in to please your inexperienced partner and learning what works for her is too much effort. Older women don’t require men to put in the same effort. They have had years to figure out their bodies, making his job so much easier. They’re more willing to try adventurous stuff with their younger male partners. Age makes you brave and more willing to try new things. A sexy MILF is down for anything in the bedroom.
MILFs Have Their Own Money
MILFs are much more advanced in their career and have much more money to spend than younger women. A sexy MILF is independent and won’t expect a younger man to pay for her meals or expect to receive expensive gifts from him. An older woman can pay her way and therefore doesn’t appreciate a man paying for her dinner the same way a younger woman does. Oh, no. A hot MILF doesn’t expect anything from her younger man. Being with a financially independent older woman puts less pressure on men. They don’t feel obligated to pick up the check at dinner because they know their sexy MILF date has no problem paying. Yep, she’s so independent that she never expects her date to do something nice for her. She may even pay for his dinner as well because, you know, she’s cool like that.
They’re Open to Casual Sex
A hot older woman has no time for relationships. She has been there, done that, and is now looking to have fun. She may be married or recently divorced with a family at home. Getting into a serious relationship is not on her agenda. It doesn’t fit with her lifestyle. She is only looking for a non-committed, no strings attached, sexual affair. She’s ravenous for casual sex. The more casual, the better. How perfect for a young man who also does not want anything serious? Relationships are a lot of work. Young men don’t want the pressure of being in a committed relationship where a woman expects them to be a decent person. But a sexy MILF is way above the need or desire for emotional intimacy. She doesn’t get jealous or yearn for something more. She expects nothing from her sexual partners other than great sex. A sexy MILF is all about sex, all the time. How convenient.
How To Be the Sexy MILF You’re Meant To Be
The term MILF has been fetishized to reflect men’s ideal version of a sexy older woman. They have taken the very real characterizations of older women (such as confidence, experience, and sexual freedom) and perverted them into fitting their desires. A hot MILF is the “cool girl” but older. It’s unfortunate because older women have so much more to give than serving as a fantasy for pre-pubescent frat boys. A sexy MILF is indeed hot, confident, and independent. But these qualities are not there to serve men.
If you are nearing the old age of 35, you’ve likely thought about what it means to be a MILF. As strange as it may sound to refer to yourself as a sexy MILF, we don’t stay young forever. But being a MILF isn’t a bad thing. Women are now embracing the term MILF and using it to their advantage. MILFs are proving that women are still desirable after a certain age. Motherhood or age doesn’t determine your sexual desirability or worth. You do. So how do you become a sexy MILF?
Be Confident
A sexy MILF is confident. She doesn’t mess around with men or potential love interests that don’t please her. She knows what she wants and doesn’t sacrifice her wants or needs to be with someone less than she expects. A sexy MILF is confident in her appearance and her self-worth. Why would she ever compromise for someone who doesn’t meet her standards? A sexy MILF is picky. She doesn’t sleep around with just anyone. She knows what she wants and doesn’t waste her time with losers. She expects more from everyone in her life, especially her sexual partners. Her confidence is what attracts those to her, and she knows it. When a sexy MILF walks through the door, she commands attention.
Get What You Want in the Bedroom
A younger woman is less likely to know what she wants in the bedroom. When you’re younger, you’re less experienced. But many women’s problems in the bedroom stem from them not feeling confident enough to tell men what they want. Younger women may be more self-conscious or afraid to speak up and say to a guy exactly what she wants him to do. A sexy MILF is way past that point in her life. Once a woman reaches a certain age, her tolerance for bullshit goes way down. A sexy MILF doesn’t have time for mediocre sex. She is going to tell her partner exactly what she wants. And if he can’t provide it, then she moves on. Simple as that.
Younger women should take a cue from their older counterparts. Why aren’t we speaking up more in the bedroom? The orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships is a problem. Women have fewer orgasms during sexual intercourse than men. Most women wouldn’t be surprised by that statistic, but why is that? If a sexy MILF won’t accept subpar sex, you shouldn’t either. Tell your partner what he needs to do to make you orgasm. If he is not willing to do it, he is not someone you should be having a sexual relationship with anyway.
Don’t Let Society Dictate Your Worth
A sexy MILF knows that her age doesn’t determine her worth or desirability. A sexy MILF rejects all standards or societal pressure to conform to society’s idea of how an older woman should behave. A mature woman can be just as sexy as her younger counterparts. She wears what she wants, says what she wants, and does what she wants. A sexy MILF is confident in her sexuality and knows that her age doesn’t interfere with her sex life. She doesn’t let the opinions of others affect how she sees herself and how she lives her life. Who says older women shouldn’t have sex? Who says older women can’t be hot? Who says an older woman can’t wear sexy clothing? A hot MILF knows her worth and is confident in living her life the way she chooses regardless of what others think.
Be Independent
A sexy MILF is independent. Age brings experience, wisdom, and, most importantly, self-sufficiency. A hot MILF doesn’t rely on anyone for her happiness or well-being. She takes care of herself and doesn’t cling to anyone, especially men, for validation. Independence brings with it freedom. An independent MILF goes where she wants and does what she wants because she can. She has set her life up so that she doesn’t depend on anyone financially or emotionally. Independence is sexy and empowering. A sexy MILF doesn’t allow anyone into her life that impedes her happiness. Because she doesn’t have to. She has the independence and financial freedom to pick up and leave whenever a situation no longer serves her.
Stand Up for Yourself
A sexy MILF doesn’t let anybody boss her around. She’s been on this earth long enough to know that if she doesn’t stand up for herself, no one else is. A sexy MILF doesn’t shy away from confronting a jerk at work or in a relationship. She’s no longer concerned about what others think of her. She says what she wants and does what she wants. Derogatory terms describe women who don’t take the crap. Years of experience have made her braver and stronger. She’s not afraid to command the respect she deserves. A sexy MILF is no one’s doormat. She knows who she is and what she stands for. She’s no longer concerned with being the nice girl, and she is damn well not concerned about being the “cool girl.”
The Takeaway
Being a sexy MILF is not looking or behaving like a pornstar in a MILF porn fantasy. Older women are more than a fetish. They are real-life people with needs, desires, and a normal sexual appetite. A sexy MILF understands that her worth does not tie to her age. She lives her life the way she chooses. MILFs are defying society’s beauty standards and refusing to conform to the widely held stereotype of how an older woman should look and act. A sexy MILF rejects stereotypes and looks hot while doing it.
